This is me.
(http://img309.imageshack.us/img309/9202/bathroom0013yt.jpg) (http://imageshack.us)
And I am goin out with her.
(http://img309.imageshack.us/img309/5743/alyseismyxcorebb1de.jpg) (http://imageshack.us)
Do you think that I am really lucky? or that we look right for eachother. I just mean that she is 18 and I am 15 so I was woundering if this is amazing. Did I mention I love her?
Didn't we just go over this stuff? (http://www.adventuregamestudio.co.uk/yabb/index.php?topic=25273.0)
Listen to Dashboard, it'll just end badly!
In need of more prophets? http://www.heartbreakclub.org/
How Deliciously Emo!
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You may not want to mention that you "love" her. Why?
a) You really don't know what love is at 15. Trust me. You may think you do. You don't. I wish someone had told me the same. Oh boy, do I...
b) You'll scare her off.
Good Luck. I don't know any past 15 year old friends of mine that are still together with their girlfriend from the time, but hey, make your own path through life and see how it works.
Your girlfriend seems to have spilled something on her shirt.
Also, another fine example of Myspacing a picture.
(http://www.qwantz.com/apologies/comics/relationships.png)
I knew it. I knew exactly what this thread was about before I even opened it. Has the General Discussion forum become one big personals ad?
Anyways, I don't know if you're lucky or not, but it really makes you wonder what an adult woman (at least by European standards) is doing with an adolescent. Viceversa, it's not that uncommon, as guys progress slower than girls during the teens, and usually guys are more prone than women to being sleazebags. But thousands of drama shows have shown us where this leads. But in the reverse case, I'm not sure how to react. Either she really likes you, or she has an alternative agenda, whether she, herself, knows it or not. So I guess I'd advise you to be wary.
Undoubtedly, you're gonna get your heart broken at some point in your life, and it does change perspective. So why not get it over with? Just try not to invest too much in it. Also, you could learn a lot from the relationship, whether it holds up or not. And always remember that in the States, conjugation in this kind of situation is called statiotary rape :).
Given that it's a MySpaced up picture, it's hard to tell, but she does appear to be somewhat hot. Good for you.
I don't know a thing about you so don't take this the wrong way, but I have to agree that this probably will end up hurting you, and I also wonder about her motives.
Nothing about you, but I just know that when I was 18, going out with a 15 year old boy was just an INSANE thing to do. Girls that age might go down one year if the guy is really mature looking, but to go down so many years... a guy might do it to a girl, but it really in strange to see it the other way around.
So yes, I think you are a lucky bastard for the moment. I recommend you do some dirty things with her quickly (experience points count!) and then break up with her. Not meanly, just... tell her you've decided the age gap is too difficult to handle and you want to save further heartbreak for the both of you later.
(This is coming from someone who met her 8 years senior fiance at the age of 14. As hypocritical as it sounds, I stand by my advice.)
Ahh the emo fad, so many of them here in Australia. Especially when I play gigs at so-called metal clubs and see 3000 of them, with the same fringe, clothing and make-up. Its even hard to tell apart the guys from the gals. No offence to your other half, I just took note of the fashion trend.
I tapped some 18 year olds when I was 15. And some hot ones at that. But it wasn't love. Far from it.
I met and flirted heavily with my someday fiance when I was 15 and she was 15... I never thought of it that way. It was high school track. We didn't date until college, and to be honest, as wonderful as it is now, I'm a little glad we didn't start earlier. I don't want to think about "what if" we dated back then, and I acted like I used to, and we broke up and I missed out on what perfect is now.
I have no idea what my point is... except that I may have completely run over my previous posts' point. Hmm. 8) We're 22 and 21 now and maybe, perhaps someday, if scubachic is reading this... maybe I'll propose someday.. Ã, :P
Quote from: Kinoko on Fri 10/03/2006 05:49:17
Girls that age might go down one year if the guy is really mature looking...
I did, and even then, it didn't work out. Moral of the story: there's no such thing as being "wise beyond one's years".
When it comes to teens, I think you're right. There are some that are less mature than they should be, and some that look and act more mature than they should be, but it comes down to life experience in the end and there's no way you can hurry that up.
Don't listen to everybody else here, I mean... jesus! Tell her you love her if that's how you feel! Be enthusiastic if that's how you feel! Take it seriously if that's what you want, do it all as it comes to you and don't worry about where it'll lead. You can't bridge the gap of experience with stupid words people tell you on the internet. You'll have to go through everything, like anyone else, and it's going to be great and awful all at once and it's called living. Just make an effort to
be there while everything is going on and not outside the box rationalizing everything and how you're going to talk about it on a message board.
QuoteI recommend you do some dirty things with her quickly (experience points count!) and then break up with her. Not meanly, just... tell her you've decided the age gap is too difficult to handle and you want to save further heartbreak for the both of you later.
I'd punch you for saying this. In the kidneys, and not a joke punch either. You'd double up and I'd push you back so you'd fall on the floor and then I'd kick you sharply, once. twice. in the ribs and I'd then whisper to you while you frantically try to not choke on the torrents of your own blood swelling up in your throat "I'm sorry. I'm trying to save further heartbreak for both of us."
I agree with Helm.
I fell in love when I was 12. I was DEFINATELY in love. If I was anymore in love, I'd EXPLODE.
And when we broke up, I couldn't stop thinking about it! I didn't get over it until like 2 years later! In fact, I'm so obsessed with this failed relationship that I'm making my AGS game-and the SEQUEL to it-based on it!
Anyway, either way, if it fails or works out, you're lucky. I'm glad I know what it feels like to have a broken heart now. I've got an ex to make fun of!
I say marry her, if it goes wrong, just have her killed. It'd be poetic Justice, or something.
You'veseen her picture, has she seen yours?
If yes, then go ahead and follow Helms advice!
Stupid question, probably, but what's the emo fad?
If you don't learn it yourself nobody will teach you. If I told you not to date her you wouldn't listen anyway and if you did, you would never go through some important lessons. So I just say go for it, do prepare for the worst and never get attached too much - I don't mean you should be shallow or anything, but don't plan your whole life around her!
To answer your initial question: No, you are not a lucky bastard
Quotewhat's the emo fad?
1) Take a goth and what you hate about him
2) Take a hardcore-punk and what you hate about him
3) Put them in a blender, mix well
4) Add some gayness - a giant teaspoon is enough
5) Behold and phear teh Emo Kid
http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-2866182783213645581&q=emo
(yes I do realise that not all goths and emos are politically-correct stuff goes here. I don't hate them, I even have friends who more polically correct stuff goes here)
I'm not gonna share my personal experiences, partly because Modgegulator would be annoyed (he'd probably hire a hitman if I said anything remotely similar to what Evil just said), and partly because I don't have much experience from that age.
First of all, the question is poorly phrased. A better question would be "is this girl very physically attractive?" In which case it's still hard to answer because the photo reveals little of her true appearence. Luck has to do with whether she treats you well, stays true to you, fullfills your needs, stimulates you in various ways, etc.
Apart from that, I don't think anybody has the rights to teach you what love is about, even though they might have a good point. To say that you love someone means so very very much, and it takes a lot of experience to truly know what you're actually talking about.
There is however a point somebody brought up that you need to realise, which is that she's adult and you're not, and the relationship you have is very unusual.
Whatever happens, you'll learn something from it.
Woah...at first I thought that was Leslie:
(http://myspace-744.vo.llnwd.net/00532/44/78/532978744_l.jpg)
I don't know Leslie, but I know her ex. ([EDIT:] It's obviously not, just at first I thought it was) Anyway...I think any guy that has a girl in love with them should consider themselves lucky (assuming that he likes the girl back and she's not just some sort of psycho stalker chick (although those can be fun too ;))). But...that's coming from me.
Quote from: Helm on Fri 10/03/2006 07:07:02
Just make an effort to be there while everything is going on and not outside the box rationalizing everything and how you're going to talk about it on a message board.
What if it's more natural for you to rationalize everything than it is to be present?
Then you will suffer for nothing. You will go directly from the 'wow, I am in a relationship!' to the pain and sadness of when the relationship collpases without having really experienced much fully.
The less you do it, the less it feels natural to do it. When you find yourself rationalizing when you should be living, stop. The control tool is words. Do not voice your rationalizations as often as you do. In lack of blabbering, you'll find more interesting things to do.
This doesn't mean that when there's problems they shouldn't be discussed. It means we shouldn't invent problems where there's none.
But doesn't living in the moment make you suffer as well? I know it did for me at some point...
I remember 15 hehe that was funny, I was apparently very mature and always dating the older girls, (This seems to my trend) I even had a women of 29 confessing her love to me at the age of 19 well geez it was fun for awhile...
Never the less my point being, it doesnt matter how hot she is or you are... (Mr Potter) There are just certian unspoken ground rules and they are the same EVERYWHERE!
Dont go and stuff things up with the famous "I Luv You!" No, no.
Then dont be to clingy man she had a life before you and firends etc. (You wont believe the amount of idiots out there!)
Be spontanous hell if you over analys things like I do then (Fake it till you make it) And you will be spontanous eventually hell I learnt this quickly.
And sometimes you just dont care! (Its true it drives them nuts and they love you for it!)
I dunno why these things are like it is they just are!
Quote from: The Inquisitive Stranger on Fri 10/03/2006 15:47:42
But doesn't living in the moment make you suffer as well? I know it did for me at some point...
No hell NO! living the moments all you have! Lets face it the odds of having the same partner is pretty much impossible! I just enjoy the days as they pass I know I couldnt of been in a more stable relationship if I didnt experience my past partners!
But you see, people only tell you to live in the moment when good things happen to you. What if you're at a point in your life where you're lonely and heartbroken? Should you live in the moment then? Huh? HUH?
Well, I suppose you can, but then all you'll do is write angsty poetry all day... which is fun for awhile, but gets old quickly.
A smile crossed my face when I read this as this is axactly what happens to me, I wrote poetry alot when this whole first love, second third fourth.. and like you said it got old quickly.
The interesting thing is when you spend your time doing what you have always done when that special someone was not in your life, now when they are. You tend to have a stronger relationship because the time spent together is not "mass" time its "quality " time.
So you dont get sick or bored of this person or it doesnt get old quickly because there is always fun and romance in the air! Instead of forcing your whole life sotry down the other persons throught in your first couple of dates becuase you have nothing to say just cut it short and make anything interesting and strange. You wont believe how this works on men and females alike.
I've learnt in the past year or so that your life will only get better and better through having as many experiences as you can. Just accept that sometimes you'll go through pain and hardship, because the highs as long as you keep trying new things and trying to be happy will be WAY worth it! There's something really awesome about realising you've become a better person through experience ^_^
Quote from: The Inquisitive Stranger on Fri 10/03/2006 15:58:38
But you see, people only tell you to live in the moment when good things happen to you. What if you're at a point in your life where you're lonely and heartbroken? Should you live in the moment then? Huh? HUH?
Well, I suppose you can, but then all you'll do is write angsty poetry all day... which is fun for awhile, but gets old quickly.
Yes. Live everything. The good and the bad. Emotional pain is only useful as something that has ended, I know. But this is a matter of fortitude, eventually. If you're scared to live the moment because the moment might turn ugly, then you shouldn't live at all.
I've come to realize opinions, words, the illusion of progress means very little. There's LIVING, and there's downtime (I am currently experiencing emotional downtime myself). We are animals that grow easily bored, so we make of the downtime the best we can, but the set of skills you develop during downtime (mental masturbation like rationalization, abstract connection of disparate event for fun, solving causal chain problems and the like) shouldn't impair you in enjoying a beautiful night spent with someone you care for, a nice movie, watching dusk break, playing with a cat, taking a deep breath of nothing and realizing that
this is pretty awesome in the end.
If you let your personal perception of reality manifest intrusively all the time, it will inhibit your ability to be challenged by what really is there, you'll be trapped in your own little solipsistic world where you'll keep repeating the same damn words and rationalizations to yourself until you believe them fully, all the while foolishly construing a growing COMPLEX as 'personal growth' and progress. Be brave and realize you know nothing. Be brave and fall headfirst into the unfathomable vortex of existence!
QuoteThere's something really awesome about realising you've become a better person through experience ^_^
Do not believe her lies. You do not become better through experience. You just go through your path until you die. Do what you have time to do. There's the end death, and there's just entropic slowing down until you do nothing and just rationalize your situation ad nausaum. Do you have to go through two types of death?
Okay... but how can I know for sure that what you're saying is true and what she's saying is a lie?
Because . . . she's a girl?
I was semi-joking about her lying. I'm sure she believes her words to be valid as much as anyone else... All this is dependent on linguistic mechanisms that are very inexact and subjective, really. In the end I'm not telling you anything, nor do I think existentialism can be aritculated convincingly. This is an outlet for my own mental masturbation, you see, and I do not really seek to direct you in your life.
The only safe assumption I am willing to make and I make constantly, is that which invalidates language and these sets of tools we use so wrongly: what is the nature of knowledge? What is belief and what is 'truth'? Epistemologically challenging the foundations of communication is my only valid point. I am basically saying "you think you know, but you don't. I don't. We discuss because it's fun, not because it leads to truth. Experience cannot be articulated, it is personal and the only vital thing."
THanks everyone. This is goin a little deeper than I thought because i dont even understand some of the stuff you guys are saying. so thanks anyway
Love's deep, bro.
Quote from: Scummbuddy on Fri 10/03/2006 03:29:34
a) You really don't know what love is at 15. Trust me. You may think you do. You don't. I wish someone had told me the same. Oh boy, do I...
Would you at that age have paid any attention to someone if they had told you?
TaffyTom, you are a lucky bastard. I don't care what she looks like. Irrelevant from my perspective. You. Lucky. Bastard. You bastard. You BASTARD!! I'LL KILL YOU, YOU LUCKY BASTARD, YOU! GRAHHH!!!!!
(Don't take the second half of that paragraph seriously) ;D
15? Totally safe age. I say go for it. All kinds of heart wounds DO heal. Yet.
But if you were 5 years or so older... oh well.
Quote from: Helm on Fri 10/03/2006 16:58:57
In the end I'm not telling you anything, nor do I think existentialism can be aritculated convincingly. This is an outlet for my own mental masturbation, you see, and I do not really seek to direct you in your life.
Well, that's a relief. The practice of using words to teach someone that words are useless does make me suspicious, after all.
Quote from: InCreator on Fri 10/03/2006 21:08:53
All kinds of heart wounds DO heal.
What about the ones that kill you?
The ones that kill you dont matter cause your umm dead.. ;D
Duh!
Hahah...apparently she has better judgement than you. She is able to look beyond appearances, but you seem to highlight them. If I took them upon the basis of how I look, I'd be amazed that I ever got into any relationships at all (not that I'm not).
I guess you are a lucky bastard.
What do you mean, look beyond appearances? What if she likes the way he looks?
And that's very good judgement!
My point was that taffytom seems to be considering himself "a lucky bastard" because he's going out with someone so much more visually appealing (I think that's what he's trying to point out) in comparison to himself.
Yip thats what I thought he was implying, that he found her to be awesomely hot and believes hes just like Harry potter looking.
Hmmm.
I leave for 5 minutes, and now I have no CLUE what's going on!
Anyway, I don't know what the argument is about now, heh, but I'd just say don't listen to the people on this forum (whatever the halibut they're talking about). No matter how much they say they know about relationships, they don't. Why do you think we're all sitting here, wasting our time, argueing about what or what not to do? It's because we don't HAVE relationships! Heh.
Well, don't worry about it. You're already in a relationship, great, I guess. Don't break up. But don't worry if you do-once you get over it, you'll feel like a million bucks. And you know why? Because then you'll have an ex to make fun of! It's great, believe me!
About 2 years after you break up, you're STILL crying, and then all of a sudden, it's like "Hey... wait a minute! I have a LIFE now! Yay!" xD
Don't break up a relationship you're already in because you're afraid you WILL break up. That's silly. Just avoid future relationships, unless you need more ex's to make fun of (the more, the merrier!). But it's too late now. If you stay together, you're lucky. If you break up, you're lucky. Just think of all the people on MTV-Kelly Clarkson, Rob Thomas (I think, doesn't he?), Fall Out Boy, almost every single one of them (people who everybody wants to be) has a broken heart. If you don't, then you don't sympathize with these people, and you don't make anything of yourself, you'll still think all there is to life is love. If you're a comedian, your best material is about your ex. If you make AGS games, it's probably gonna be about your ex. My game is all about what I'd do to my ex if I had the chance (well, I wouldn't REALLY do that, because one, I don't think we'll be switching bodies any time soon, and two, because I'd be arrested for torturing and brutally murdering someone). So don't listen to the people who say you're too young or whatever. The sooner, the better-you won't regret it, no matter how it works out (probably).
Just WHATEVER YOU DO, DON'T LISTEN TO A WORD WE SAY!!! Sorry for the caps. Just wanted to make it clear. Ã, ;D
QuoteTHanks everyone. This is goin a little deeper than I thought because i dont even understand some of the stuff you guys are saying. so thanks anyway
Yep. Exactly. Went completely over my head. Even what I said, went completely over my head.
QuoteAbout 2 years after you break up, you're STILL crying, and then all of a sudden, it's like "Hey... wait a minute! I have a LIFE now! Yay!" xD
...assuming that your male friends have forgiven you by that time for dumping THEM while you dated this girl... :D
QuoteWell, that's a relief. The practice of using words to teach someone that words are useless does make me suspicious, after all.
as suspicious as socrates saying 'all I know is that I know nothing'.
she's not all that good looking :=
Is that why your called monkey spank ;)
Quote from: Afflict on Sat 11/03/2006 06:04:27
Yip thats what I thought he was implying, that he found her to be awesomely hot and believes hes just like Harry potter looking.
Hey, Harry Potter's totally hot and you know it.
Prostitutes.
Think about it.
Are you sure she's 18? she looks like 15 to me.
But maybe it's because I'm soooo (not really) old.
Quote from: The Inquisitive Stranger on Sat 11/03/2006 15:22:13
Hey, Harry Potter's totally hot and you know it.
LoL your kidding right...
Quote from: Edmundo on Sat 11/03/2006 22:56:54
Are you sure she's 18? she looks like 15 to me.
But maybe it's because I'm soooo (not really) old.
This is funny reminds me of a joke my friends and I had. We said before you doing anything with a girl the rest of us want a certified ID copy else no... (For one of our friends that is really bad at judging age) Very gullable the girl told him shes like 16 and shes more of 14 hehe..
(http://www.azkabanworld.com/galeria/albums/userpics/10001/normal_harry_in_the_bath.jpg)
Surely you meant:
(http://images.cellosoft.com/netmonkey/ags/25516-1.jpg)
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Most people, especially teens ('cept me, I don't like that movie), probably would pick Harry Potter as their boyfriend.
So, yeah, I guess, in that way, most girls probably would like the way Taffytom looks.
^
I am gunna be laughing for like days from that Edmundo.
Thanks everyone. Now that everything has set in I undestand everything much better. And I didnt mean that I am a lucky bastard because she is so much hotter than me. Which she is.Ã, ;D But I meant mainly because she is 3 years older than me and we actually understand eachother and have a good relationship.
EDIT: I figure most girls my age think Daniel Radcliff is the Hottest guy ever. But i wouldnt kno.
Heya Monkeyspank. How's life?