I know what you mean, and it's perfectly possible both views have merit to them, especially since in a group as broad as "the gamers" you will still find countless individuals with different views and ways of handling things. Then again, whenever people refer to a group with a label like "gamers", "feminists", "conservatives" or "leftists", one should always keep in mind that it's best to add 'some subsect of' before whatever label is used. So when I might say "gamers are X", I am most certainly referring to "some subsect of gamers are X".
A good life lesson, as well as a valuable tool for online discourse and media literacy, I feel.