I'm aware a lot of you may find this topic rather uncaring, but does anyone get sick of listening to their single friends bitch about Valentine's Day? I myself find it a very commercial holiday, and I can go the whole argument of "You should love each other EVERY day, not just this one day" and all of that. I agree. I do. It's just that every single year it rolls around, I could bet a million dollars with 100% security (if I had that much money) on each and every one of the same single friends making the exact same comments about Valentine's Day.
"Well, it's Valentine's Day and I'm alone, AGAIN"
"What a stupid holiday, why do people fall for this crap? It's just created by Hallmark and chocolate companies to ..."
"*SIGH* I decided not to bitch this year but..."
...those are just a couple of examples. I mean, I understand, and I agree, but it's just gone way above "cliche" at this point. They're all great people, they don't seem to care about being single 99% of the time, but when Valentine's Day rolls around, they just have to say it. They have to say -something- and I can almost watch my clock waiting for it.
Like I said, I know it sounds uncaring, but it feels to me like it's been done to death and as if they're just saying it out of habit, or to get the obligatory "Don't worry, you're a great person, you'll find someone". What annoys me even more is when they make a point of saying how much Valentine's Day -doesn't- bother them, but then they talk for half an hour about how much it doesn't bother them. I'd like to be able to occasionally mention that I had a nice dinner out with my boyfriend, but I dare not speak a word for sounding like I'm "rubbing it in", causing them to go on about their one-day-a-year woes.
Phew, just had to get that off my chest really.
Incidentally, I had a lovely Valentine's yesterday ^_^ (man, that felt good to say!)
Heh. Yeah, I'm one of those bitchers this year. Not normally - but, as you've probably read I've had a rocky ride recently, and EVERYTHING about Valentines reminded me of different aspects of that rocky road.
But yes, those people who do it EVERY year without fail annoy me. Worse still, some of my COUPLED friends whinge about it. "Oh, valentines is SUCH a drag! It just means we have to spend money on *insert name* when s/he knows I love him/her already!" Um... okay. I don't get that point of view. I mean, yes, they love them regardless of valentines, but if you don't like it, don't celebrate it. Don't go and bitch to us singletons about how much it drags to be in a loving relationship with someone where you have the opportunity to express it....
Incidentally, my Valentines wasn't actually that bad. A lot of good things happened to me, I just wanted it to be over for symbolisms sake :)
Yes, Peter, I think you have a pretty valid reason for bitching ^_^ That doesn't bother me. Like you said, just those people that do it -all- the time for the sake of it. I agree that couples can be as bad.
I'm glad yours wasn't so bad.
I love being single!!! I remember my last girlfriend, towards the end, it wasn't fun at all! I realized when I am single, I got more time to do my own things.
-Pizzaman
I don't think I've ever heard a single person bitch about Valentine's Day. In my experience, the most annoying thing about the day for us singles is our coupled friends going on about how sorry they feel for us. It's not a big deal, OK?
I actually enjoy the day a lot, even without a valentine. Seeing couples being so sweet to each other is just... nice. Makes me feel all sentimental.
Today, a friend of mine is going to propose to her girlfriend. Something is deeply right with the universe. Ã, :D
I just like how being single on Valentines day is treated like being Jewish on Christmas.
"Oh, your Jewish? Well.. This is Santa Claus... He has a VAGINA.... Can you say that?"
Wait.. I think I got my analogy.. Hm. Oh well. Santa Claus Vagina for the masses. Yay!
I hate having a girlfriend on Valentines Day. Even more money to spend on her. But there IS a plue side to being single. The memebers of the opposite sex feel just as lonely as you and are looking to hook up aswell.
I love Valentine's day! I'm single, but whenever there's an excuse to eat chocolate I'm all for it. The trick is to wait the day after Valentines day, to buy everything. Because, let's face it, Valentines day is an expensive day.
But even without a girlfriend, I still got free candy from my big sis (fraternity sister), and repaid her with more candy.
I've had to portion off my box of chocolates so I don't eat it all in a day, which is what I really want to do...mainly because I want to try all the different flavors. Damn sampler box!
-MillsJROSS
Oh no! Mills is single! Did the long distance relationship with CJ not work out?
You looked so happy!
Valentines day means its time for my yearly mating ritual.....Afterwards I will shrivel up like an empty toothpaste tube and hibernate until its humping time again.....
Quote from: MillsJROSS on Tue 15/02/2005 03:17:39
I love Valentine's day! I'm single, but whenever there's an excuse to eat chocolate I'm all for it. The trick is to wait the day after Valentines day, to buy everything. Because, let's face it, Valentines day is an expensive day.
Aha, me too. I also love Halloween and Easter for this reason. Tonight I'm baking cookies for friends and when I went to the grocery store there were still people looking at cards and buying flowers at 8pm. Such procrastinators. If they're that bad in the doghouse, they should just wait until tomorrow and they can get three times the roses at half the price.
Also, Valentine's day is the best day to pick up chicks ever. You can tell the single and lonely ones by the blank expressionless faces, and they are much more likely to accept a date than otherwise. After this, I think I'm screwed, but for a week I am a lady's man.
Quote from: Squinky on Tue 15/02/2005 03:49:46Valentines day means its time for my yearly mating ritual.....Afterwards I will shrivel up like an empty toothpaste tube and hibernate until its humping time again.....
Good shit man ... I was laughing out loud after reading that!
I used to hate Valentine's Day. I never bitched out it ... just dreaded it internally. I knew it was just another day when I wouldn't have somebody to brush my teeth with before bed *sigh*
Well I gotta go ... Sara is waiting to brush her teeth with me.
Talking about overprice Valentines presents.... my wife named a star after me. I mean, how could she waste so much money on a thing that isnt even acknowledged by proper astronomers, etc. On the other hand, she did buy the closest available star to the one I got her at our last wedding anniversary ;)
I went to the movies yesterdaywith my girlfriend. I asked her, "why are there so many people watching this movie tonight? It's monday!" She answered because it was the 14th. I wittily said "that's right, the retired people get their money today". It was true too, but somehow I can't help feeling people looked at me with murderous fury...
I didn't pay attention to whatever day yesterday was at all. I hardly acknowledge my family's birthdays, nor my own. I'm so frikkin liberated and bohemic
I wasn't single on Valentine's Day...
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We had an awesome time together!
I'm single, and have been for several years (no exageration). I spent a lot of yesterday dealing with people saying "Find anyone this year? No? Oh," and quickly changing the subject.
That wouldn't be so bad, but I had that conversation about NINE TIMES yesterday. Most of the time people don't care about my non-existant lovelife, but on Valentines everyone tends to want to silmutaneously talk about it and avoid it. And it gets old.
Quote from: DragonRose on Tue 15/02/2005 15:46:11I'm single, and have been for several years (no exageration). I spent a lot of yesterday dealing with people saying "Find anyone this year? No? Oh," and quickly changing the subject.
I was single for about 5 years before Sara and I got together. I had about 2 million female friends who always said, "but you're the perfect guy ...
any girl would be lucky to have you!"
You can only hear that shit so many times before you simply stop listening.
I don't usually care about Valentine's day at all. I had nothing planned for it what-so-ever ... but yesterday when I got to my desk Sara had left a little card for me. So I suprised her when she got home by cooking her dinner and left her a card with a rose ... nothing fancy, but just returned the favor.
This year I've heard far more couples bitching about having to spend money on each other, than I've heard singles moaning about being single.
It may be a day that's pretty much all commercial, but I find it sad how many people would rather moan about it than embrace it.
Anyway, I got a valentine's card for a mate of mine just for a laugh. Upon opening it, he looked at me funny and we haven't spoken since.
Quote from: DragonRose on Tue 15/02/2005 15:46:11
I'm single, and have been for several years (no exageration).
Same here. And you know what I say? Good! Less money *I* have to spend on some materialistic girl who doesn't know the real meaning of "love". I had a blast yesterday. I lounged around all day, did some math homework (which I, strangely enough, like doing), then went to my math class. All in all, it was a very lovely day. Valentine's Day reminds me of how much I like being single sometimes. :P
Yeah, I always say that. But this year was the worst Valentine's Day ever. Don't ask why, it's a long story :-\
Quote from: TerranRich on Tue 15/02/2005 21:37:17
Valentine's Day reminds me of how much I like being single sometimes. :P
I wish more people could embrace it as you have :P Not enough people make the most of single life while they can. Get out, sleep with hookers, eat chinese takeaway all the time and play some computer games!
QuoteOh no! Mills is single! Did the long distance relationship with CJ not work out?
You looked so happy!
Oh it worked out alright, but we got in a huge fight about how he thought the chocolate tasted better over there, and I was like "Nuh-uh, it's better over here!", then he was like "fine!", and I was like "Fine!", and so we didn't give each other presents. Not that I'm bitter or anything, bitter like Englands chocolate!
-MillsJROSS
Valentine's Day can be a bit of a nuisance sometimes. Mostly because I don't like to be pitied for being single. I LIKE being single. My life is the best its ever been right now. Why do people assume I'm just waiting around for someone to make my life complete? Though, one of my more sane friends just mentioned about getting some flowers, and having to fashion a vase out of a pringles tube, and some silver wrapping paper. Ahhh, the romance, eh?
Admittedly, I used spend a lot of time wishing for a special someone to wave a magic wand, and suddenly make my life better. Then I realised, that the only person who could make my life better was me. And I did. I've got some wonderful friends, I'm doing a course I enjoy, and my life is finally going in the direction I want it to.
That said, wouldn't pass up any offers!Ã, ;D
Yeah, before I met my wife, I used to kid myself that I was happier being single, too.
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Now I'm married, I know I was happier... ;)
Quote from: Kinoko on Tue 15/02/2005 23:08:15
I wish more people could embrace it as you have :P Not enough people make the most of single life while they can.
You're in a forum for computer geeks, Kinoko, most people here are single against their will. In order to truly appreciate solitude, you need to have been in relationships for quite long, or perhaps in very bad relationships.
The coolness of bachelor-life fades away over time.
The coolness of sleeping with hookers fades away? I refuse to believe it, sir!
Sure, I'm one of the many computer geeks here, but I have indeed been in a few relationships that have ended badly... Okay, every one of them has ended badly. SO i figure I'm just better off single...for now.
Once I'm bored with being single, watch out ladies! Teh TerranRichard will be back on the prowl!! Growarr!!!
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I want you TerranRich!
I just ignore Valentines day.
I've got no problem with being single, I like being alone.
So very alone...
Lying awake in that bed...forever...ALL ALONE!!
No love for Alex...No love for Alex...
*breaks down and cries*
Ahem.
And that's what's best for me.
Mills: Hersheys sucks!!
English Chocolate?? Hershey?? Blasphemers! Apparently you haven't heard about a lil ol' country known as Switzerland. Home of REAL CHOCOLATE :P
I didn't really notice it was valentines day till I read this thread. No bitching from this single...
Weird, but slightly unrelated fact: Did you know they banned the sale of anything the days before and on valentines day in Saudi Arabia?
Quote from: TerranRich on Wed 16/02/2005 16:07:48
Sure, I'm one of the many computer geeks here, but I have indeed been in a few relationships that have ended badly... Okay, every one of them has ended badly. SO i figure I'm just better off single...for now.
Once I'm bored with being single, watch out ladies! Teh TerranRichard will be back on the prowl!! Growarr!!!
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Haha yeah, I totally agree with this one... Relationships are just too stressing. I recently screwed something up, this is why this was the worst Valentine's Day ever. Other years I wouldn't even notice.
QuoteI have indeed been in a few relationships that have ended badly... Okay, every one of them has ended badly. SO i figure I'm just better off single...for now.
Indeed -- Put it this way... has anyone here been in more than one relationship that didn't come to an end?
I rest my case.
Besides which, I'd definitely agree that being single is better than being in a bad relationship. There's really no point in repeatedly putting yourself through the bad times just so that you can say you have a girl/boyfriend.
Quote from: Pumaman on Wed 16/02/2005 19:49:28
Besides which, I'd definitely agree that being single is better than being in a bad relationship. There's really no point in repeatedly putting yourself through the bad times just so that you can say you have a girl/boyfriend.
Amen
I had a great Valentines day, in bed & at work! :| V-Day is sweet, why don't you see it so? It's an oppurtunity for some to confess how they feel, that's all. There's nothing wrong nor commercial about that. It's more of an oppurtunity day than anything else.
Unlike Christmas where you're guaranteed presents, you're not gauranteed to succeed :P
To be honest, probably better of dead than single or in a relationship if its problem-free you're looking for. What's so appealing about being single? Sure, you have no commitments, you can engorge in a good while of eye-candy but it's not like you're going to be with a different, new exiting partner every night, (or every 'start of interest' - 'end of interest' period). On the other hand, anyone that's been in a GOOD relationship and has lost out from that may agree that it's probably better to be in that good relationship than to be single, to have lost & to not be in it anymore. I would ;)
For those who are geeks & proud, I agree to an extent - if I were an official game developer the last thing I'd want is a girlfriend to tie up valuable dev time..because they do (unless she has game dev talent herself :P ).
But as I'm just a hobbyist, I still have male-needs ;)
As for the annoying V-day quotes;
"Did you get anything?" is the one I hate the most. I never get anything, so for the last 21 years - NO, goddamn!! I meant to get Gianna a card. But, a) I forgot and b) I would never have lived it down at work for the next twenty years. And strange things happen when I write to people or send them cards and stuff so actually now that I think about it I gave up on that sorta stuff yeeaars ago.
I don't find valentines day that commercial. It's not like you're expected to buy chocolate, cards or gifts for anyone... Plus it's a day given to love. That's better than a Nazi day or perhaps just as worse something like Internet day. Or they could just take other emotions. Angry day! Or how about a PMS day or something Kinoko? No wait, we're talking annual occasions here. ;)
QuoteBesides which, I'd definitely agree that being single is better than being in a bad relationship. There's really no point in repeatedly putting yourself through the bad times just so that you can say you have a girl/boyfriend
Though I don't agree with changing partners, love etc on a whim like the wind, but you say that as if you know the out-come of your next relationship that hasn't even existed yet... You should take every oppurtunity! Good or bad, both are experience.
Got more to say will say it later.. :)
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"Has anyone here been in more than one relationship that didn't come to an end?"
Huh? What d'you mean Chris? "Is anyone here having an affair?" LOL.. :P
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Though I don't agree with changing partners, love etc on a whim like the wind, but you say that as if you know the out-come of your next relationship that hasn't even existed yet... You should take every oppurtunity! Good or bad, both are experience.
I think what I said didn't come out quite as I meant it to. What I meant was, there's no point staying in a bad relationship just for the sake of saying you have a girl/boyfriend. I certainly didn't mean there's no point trying out a new relationship; after all, if you didn't, you'd certainly never find one that worked.
Better to have loved and lost, as you say.
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Huh? What d'you mean Chris? "Is anyone here having an affair?" LOL.. :P
Well, there was some tongue firmly in cheek when I said that :P
Quote from: m0ds on Wed 16/02/2005 20:30:29
Or how about a PMS day or something Kinoko? No wait, we're talking annual occasions here. ;)
Now why the hell was this question pointed at me? :P Just because I'm female? I'll have you know I haven't had PMS for over 5 years now, nor any biological cause to (yay, birth control!). If I'm angry, it's because someone has pissed me off by being a dickhead.
So in other words...wait a couple days and repeat the question.
-MillsJROSS
Quote from: Andail on Wed 16/02/2005 08:39:37
You're in a forum for computer geeks, Kinoko, most people here are single against their will. In order to truly appreciate solitude, you need to have been in relationships for quite long, or perhaps in very bad relationships.
The coolness of bachelor-life fades away over time.
That's right! We are all grease ridden, Mountain Dew drinking, Internet chatting, drooling GEEKS! HAHAHA. I have decided that instead of using a napkin, I can just wipe the pork grease on my bib! If only my computer is at my toliet, I would NEVER LEAVE!
World of Warcraft anyone?
-Pizzaman
Quote from: Darth Mandarb on Tue 15/02/2005 16:21:32
I had about 2 million female friends who always said, "but you're the perfect guy ... any girl would be lucky to have you!"
You can only hear that shit so many times before you simply stop listening.
You and I were separated at birth, weren't we?
I guess I missed the point of this topic, but I thought my valentine's day was kind shitty.
Bitching below:
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The last girl I was dating called me and left a message on my phone. Ã, I thought she called to say happy v-day (seeing as we agreed to remain friends), but no. Ã, She only called to ask about some of her stuff that I dropped off at her house when we broke up. Ã, She also said that she was going to leave my things at my friend's house, because she didn't feel like driving out to my place. Ã, How nice.
Then later on, my ex, Tanya, (you all remember her... the girl I made the thread-card for...) called me just to bitch about how the guy that she's with now (the one she left me for) didn't get her anything for Valentine's day, and how he's so insensitive, and how she does everything for him and he doesn't even give her so much as a thank you, and how he goes out every night but never takes her with...
I think my face just went numb.
I personally loathe Valentine's day, because obviously I'm a guy who likes companionship, the thought of having someone special to come home to, and having someone to buy flowers for on Valentine's Day, but I'm not exactly a ladies man, and I often spend Valentine's day alone.
Ok, I'm done bitching, just had to get that off my chest. :)
Hope you all shared your V.D. with someone special. :P
Trust me to question whether V-Day meant VE day or VJ day, and why you'd wish a happy one of them [well, I would as a diss to the girl] before realising the obvious