i'm having some problems with my best friend (a girl). she's been my closest friend for more than 2 years, but sometimes i feel like i don't really know her.
what's your opinion? can a guy and a girl be very close without being in a romantic relationship?
Yes, why not?
Personally, I've noticed that I have no girl close to me now, unlike in previous years. And I don't really like it.
/me calls escort services.
Well, I've managed to be good platonic friends with a female.
Now if I could only manage to get non-platonic with a gal...
Of coarse. Especially if you are a homosexual.
Oi, that was uncalled for!
True, but uncalled for.
:P
yes
Yes also.
The last 3 years of HS my best friends were all gals. So yeah, why not?
Any guy who says it's impossible is just a horny perv who just wants some ass.
/me watches Robert Eric hump some random girl's leg.
See? Of course it's possible. As long as you feel no attraction toward the girl -- physical or otherwise -- then it's possible. That might sound like a contradiction, but it happens. I'm friends with a girl that I feel no attraction to and it's cool. Just like a guy. Er...
Then, on the other hand, I'm also friends with this girl that I've been thinking about lately in a non-platonic way. ::) But oh well. :P
almost all my friends are girls.
Heh, almost all my friends are guys. It was like this since I was 7. Of course we had our differences like me not being able to climb trees sometimes when I felt like wearing a skirt , but it always worked out OK in the end.
My closest friends are girls. But then again, I tend to fall in love with my friends after a while :( It usually wears off though. Seems to be part of the process.
No. They're a different speciese. Give up on her.
Quote from: GarageGothic on Tue 29/07/2003 09:05:25
My closest friends are girls. But then again, I tend to fall in love with my friends after a while :( It usually wears off though. Seems to be part of the process.
I know that one completely, I've got 2 girl friends that are 2 of my closest friends, I slept with one a few years ago, it didn't work but we're still friends, probably better than before, the other one is probably a closer friend, never contemplated sleeping with her, (I lie, of course I have) but she has usually got a boyfriend, we've been friends for over ten years. It would just seem wierd to start going out.
Having friends of the opposite sex (or sexual preference) is probably harder to get going, but probably ends up stronger long term [usually these are the ones you end up at least dating at some stage]. but finding the right partner is much harder, depends if you just give up and go for what you can get (which is what most people do, just so they aren't lonely, LOOK at the divorce rates)
I don't just think it's possible, I think it's downright important to have friends of the opposite sex. Being able to ask a female perspective on things can be a great help sometimes.
Personally, I find it way easier to hang out with girls who are in the 'friend zone', since there's not the pressure of "oh my god does she want to sleep with me", but that might just be me being weird.
terranRICH, I never said it was impossible. I have a female friend who lives in my house, along with my current girlfriend. It's impossible to have a female as just a friend without a jealous girlfriend, though.
(http://www.autographworld.com/photos/images/threescompany1.jpg)
Look, it's possible!
Yikes, this pic's creeping me out.
Somehow, that looks completely fake, though it's probably real. Disturbing.
Of course, they don't show you that ten seconds earlier Jack tried to cop a quick one with his left hand, and that's why it's incapacitated.
They also don't show that ten seconds later the same fate would befall the right.
Well come on, it's not like there are many places on Susanne Summers' body that you could put your hand on without being naughty..
as a dirty homo, I can say that it USED to be easyer to have girls for friends. But in fact it's easyer to be friends with guys (and not just homo's, because many of THEM are more than a little female). Men are just easyer to talk to, and DEFINATLY easyer to live with. Girls are all like "clean the bathroom!" and "Who's washing up is this!" and "Don't throw wet tea-bags at the wall!" and "why have you glued a picture of an old man to the boiler?!" and "If you keep selotaping small plastic cats to the roof, we'll lose our deposit!"
They're such a drag.
Now I see why so many of people I know are turning gay. You do have a point, but.. Isn't it a bit.. um.. unclean to trow teabags at the wall?
I think you're mising the point of tea-bag flinging. This is probably why women don't play Quake.
Although I've never tried it, teabag flinging sounds like such the fun. If I ever get out of my parents' house, I'm definately trying it out.
And I used to play Quake until I got seasick from it and have since been too scared to play, with the fear that I might puke at any moment and get killed several times over by my dad.
How could you lose a deposit over taping plastic cats to the roof?
Edit: Oh, wait, I forgot to stay on topic. I think it's very possible for girls to be friends with guys. I personally prefer to hang out with guys, much for the same reasons Mostly does. Most of the girls I've encountered are way to froo frooy for me. It's like they can't tell I'm sick of hearing them complain about their boyfriends or some such stupidity.
I hang aroung guys because they discuss topics I like. Most girls just try to dump their problems on me because I'm willing to listen and guys are tight-lipped, and they bottle up their woes and I get to laugh at them when they finaly go psycho amd kill everybody! :D
Again, another point missed!
"guys" don't "discuss topics"... They "Talk shit"!!! Less brainwork and more laughs, plus we get promoted before birds do!
sure they can. I get on with ne1 i mean it could be because im bi but i dont know. i prefer girls for problems cause the guys will just laugh at u i mean im holding up a long distance relationship with a girl at the mo and i think it could be love, i think she could be THE one but u know. U can never tell. but of course its possible.
Captain -> Amen.
The amount of time I've spent in the doghouse can be directly related to the amount of time I spent not cleaning crap the minute it was decided that it should be done.
i don't think this is any place to discuss bestiality, rodekill...
I don't know dude... any girl that I've been friends with I always developed some kind of feelings for...
I've been dealing with this a little bit, too... my g/f spends a little too much time with this other guy... a little too much for my comfort... and she ain't doing anything to make me feel better or understand... I know everyone needs friends (I can't say that I have any except for my g/f)... but for her, she's only got me and this other guy... and she goes over to his house till 3 am on a school night, and goes to the movies with him, and wants me to let her stay over at his house in case of bad weather (it's near her school)... blah, blah... you suckers don't care.
I can't relate to THAT at all. Maybe you should grow a beard. Beards solve EVERYTHING.
Can a guy and a girl be friends? Of course! Like... Bruce Willis and Cybille Shepperd in Moonlighting, or... David Duchovny and Gillian Anderson in X Files (before that crappy movie) and... I'm sure there are some more.
Or like Mr. T and his mom.
I think they can get along pretty well. I've got like 5-6 good male friends and the rest (I don't know how many) are all girls. haven't brought me any embarrasing problems so far. but to tell you the truth, I kinda have the same problem. they all know me, my relatives and house in and out, but I know nothing about them. they're like closet freakin' doors man!
a guy cant be friends with a girl, because therefore you are technically disturbing and eliminatind Darwin's Laws of Natural inter-sexual Survival Theory.
oh come now... what's a little chromosome between friends :)
Well, I THOUGHT a guy and a girl could be friends...until I had a threesome with my friend Sarah and her ex-b/f. Well, there goes that theory.
So the answer's no. They can't. And I was dead serious above. :P
mitar then what are homosexuals?
terran, guy and girl can be friends just fine. pesty and i are friends and i don't want to jump her bones. [and i think i speak for her too]
i've had a friend JoAnn for many many many years and i don't want to have sex with her, she's got a boyfriend and i've got a girlfriend and there's no desire. i am friends now with my ex girlfriend and believe me there is no attraction
i'm friends with my mom too.
eric
Oh, I know, I was kidding about the "no they can't" part of my post. :)
I think the question is do you love her? Sexually or family. That changes the whole thing...
well, i guess they can be friends, but i guess it's more about whether you want to date them or not o.0
i have 2 female friends i care about, but i only want to date one :P
the one i don't want to date would let me do whatever i want with her... except i don't, because im not a pervert and wouldn't think of using her.Ã, we don't fight alot, and she's pretty cool :)
but the other i wanted to date... good god! i don't bug her about it or anything, but every time we have an argument she ALWAYS accuses me of jealousy :-\. The clincher is she's 18 and has the figure of a 12 year old boy, and all the boyfriends she's ever had make me look like Jesus lol ;)
i dunno if it's wanting to date that always seems to cause friction in friendships, or maybe it's because my other friend is crazy LOL
This...was...posted...last...year. -_-
Anyhoo, yes, of course a male and a female can just be friends. All of my friends are male anyway, since I can relate to them about skateboarding and gaming and stuff, and they know not to make moves on me and I them.
I'm probably as close to my best friend as I am to my boyfriend. I've known Darren (best friend) since I was 7, and we would always go to each other's houses at night whenever we were scared of lightning, the boogymen or whatever. Even now, whenever I go camping with him, I can sleep right beside him with only friendly-thoughts in my mind.
I mean, we've tried going out in the past (mainly because the popular people forced us too), but we both agreed that we're better off as friends. He's not romantically interested in me, and I'm not romantically interested in him.
Of course, the closeness between Darren and I have caused problems with my significant other, but I think Nathan knows by now that I wouldn't cheat on him.
when you've already got a girl you are romantic with it's a lot easier to be just friends with other girls...
Wow, ressurection of old threads O.o
Anywhoo, I still stick to having male friends. I don't get along with girls at all, but I don't get along with most guys either. I'm too morbid and tend to crack necrophilia and dead baby jokes almost nobody gets (the "I don't want to be a necro because I would have to freeze my BF's body" joke)
Sadly, I didn't manage to maintain a platonic relationship with a certain person who's my BF right now. Before that we were very good friends.
Quote from: prowler on Mon 28/07/2003 22:12:59
i'm having some problems with my best friend (a girl). she's been my closest friend for more than 2 years, but sometimes i feel like i don't really know her.
what's your opinion? can a guy and a girl be very close without being in a romantic relationship?
Nope.Ã, Every close female friend I've had, and I've had a lot, I've really just wanted to fuck.Ã, Doesn't mean I didn't like hanging out with them, or having fun doing stuff that friends do - but I still always wanted to fuck 'em.
People use each other for all kinds of reasons.Ã, Romance and sex is just one way.Ã, Emotional support is another, etc.
EDIT: This post could have probably benifited from a few of these: ;D ;D ;D ;) ;D :D ;) ;D ;) ;D
Yes they can.
So, what are these 'girls' you guys keep talking about?
*closes curtains to keep sunlight out*
they look a little like this Donny
(http://www.queenmother.tv/nycgirl/amanda/amanimages/aman1.jpg)
though not quite for reasons not immediately obvious
Dredging up this post reminded me that I have a bone pile! I completely forgot about it, too! I should pull it out so that people can jump in it like a pile of leaves! Everyone jump Pesty's bones!
Also, Blackthorne519, you stay away. You're not allowed in my bone pile.
Blackthorne, O_O! I mean,really, really, REALLY O_O!!!
I'd call you a shallow horny bastard.
Quote from: Femme Stab Mode >:D on Sat 05/06/2004 02:07:01
Blackthorne, O_O! I mean,really, really, REALLY O_O!!!
I'd call you a shallow horny bastard.
I was being totally sarcastic!
I'm not shallow, I'm just drawn that way! ;D
Bt
Is it just me, or is it that every time I click on this thread page, I get a popup asking for a password to the site "sharemation.com"?
Yep, that's because of evilgamemakers avatar, it's on sharemations webspace and everytime it tries to load a password for it is needed.
Quote from: Pesty on Sat 05/06/2004 01:30:48
I should pull it out so that people can jump in it like a pile of leaves! Everyone jump Pesty's bones!
You damn bones! I'll stomp you good!!!
DG, watch out!
A bullet-bone behind you!
It's a good thing I have a bone-bible in my shirt pocket to stop the bullet.
evilgamemaker: I have removed your avatar because of the way it made that annoying password box pop up anywhere you'd posted. Please upload it to a different server, then try again.
As to the original question (albeit a year old), of course a guy and girl can be friends. I'm sure most of us here have friends of the opposite sex who we don't fantasise about.
To the (kinda old) question:
Of course, If I can, then probably everyone else can as well.
But I've never been in a romantic realtion in my wholde life.
To be honest, I've never been really in love anytime in my life :P
To the question, yes, they can. Most of my friends are male, anyway. For one, the share my kind of humor. I also don't have any 'special feelings' towards any male, since I'm lesbian. It all depends on the person though.