Oh...my...god! *bangs head on desk*

Borish da second · Sat 31/07/2004 09:55:46

Gee, i really wish i could speak to women. Today, actually, just like 10-15 minutes ago i saw a girl. She said hi but i was like stunned. I think she thought i was ignoring her, which i really was NOT! doing. Then she left.

Alynn · Sat 31/07/2004 10:34:35

You know how I got over not being able to talk to women? I got married... now I have no problems talking to females at all... Probably because it doesn't matter to me if I get them or not... I'm still going home with someone...

BTW before you flame me, the wife and I travel in those circles... so it's perfectly fine (well you make your own moral judgements it's perfectly fine in our relationship)

Peter Thomas · Sat 31/07/2004 12:29:01

The best way to talk to girls is to practice on guys. Create a sentence that is the FIRST thing you say whenever you see a friend. something like "hey, how are you?".

That way when you see the girl, you will be in the habit of automatically saying "hey, how are you," and let the conversation go from there.

If you falter later on in the dialogue, you are screwed.

Darth Mandarb · Sat 31/07/2004 16:22:46

I used to, back in my single days, have no problems what-so-ever talking to the ladies.Ã,Â Being shy was never in my nature ... I was the 'opener' whenever we'd go out.Ã,Â The 'point-man' if you will.

However, I had a friend who just couldn't talk to women.Ã,Â So I used to coach him.Ã,Â I told him that if a woman said, "Hi" to him (as in your case) he would say something clever like, "I'm too shy to come up with something clever to say."Ã,Â That got him a few girls 'cause then they thought he was cute for being shy around girls (disclaimer: some women don't like the 'shy' type!)

The key is to just do it ... talk to them.Ã,Â Sure your first few attempts may end in disaster but the more you do it, the more comfortable and easy it becomes and before too long you'll be Cassanova!

Good luck and, most importantly, NEVER let failure get you down ... just keep trying.

shbaz · Sat 31/07/2004 18:00:43

Quote from: Peter Thomas on Sat 31/07/2004 12:29:01
The best way to talk to girls is to practice on guys.

HAHAHAHAHAHA.. sorry I couldn't help it.

"Hey, I lost my phone number, can I borrow yours?"
"Dude I think you're going to have to get some new friends."

Kinoko · Sun 01/08/2004 04:53:45

I honestly think the best way to talk to women (and of course, disclaimer disclaimer, this is a very general thing) is just to be a person and like yourself. I can't stand it when guys talk to me and I can see that talking to me (or any other girl) is a "thing to achieve", some hill to climb over. I like talking to guys who are just people, and friendly, but aren't going to cry if I'm not interested in them. Perhaps it's that old desperation thing, I don't know. This does work both ways though, I became much better at talking to people once I realised we were all the freaking same on at least one global sort of level, and I liked myself and had interesting things to say.

Of course, not being single really helps, I agree ^_- You get that whole, "I don't need to have sex with you" aura and chatting is much more pleasant. In my case though, it's because I'm not single, and I'm hence, never trying to chat someone up... so perhaps that one isn't so useful.

Honestly, just like yourself, try to be confident (without being cocky) and talk to her like she's a person and not a "girl".

Ozwalled · Sun 01/08/2004 09:15:40

I'm likely THE worst person in the worl to be giving such advice, but ignore that, becuse this advice comes from someone else (maybe some sort of famous source, I dunno).

The truth is though, that you might not be so nervous or self-conscious about things if we knew just how little people most really care about us in the first place.

Now, I know that may sound kind of depressing, but think about it. Go pick up a phonebook. Look at ten random names. Do you give a damn about ANY of those people? And do they give a damn about what you think about them? Even think of the people you go/ went to school with. For the mostpart, did you care about what they were up to most of the time?...

So, since few people care, give them a reason to. Be confident and let them get to know you.

I have a theory about confidence and why people find it attractive, by the way (as if anyone cares):

People tend to LIKE people who are confident (that get along with them or taht they think would get along with them) because if the person's confidant and willing to be around you DESPITE your flaws, then they're not likely to leave you high and dry.

-OR-

"A friend is one who knows you and loves you just the same."
-Elbert Hubbard

Take all that for what it's worth. And remember: women are people too... so try treating them that way and not like they're some mystical creature. (Yes, they're very sexy people, but people just the same... he said idn his best Zap Brannigan voice.) Try becomming FRIENDS before moving on to anything else.

Again, though, keep in mind that I'm a social retard when it comes to women, too. In different ways than you Borish, maybe, but that still doesn't make me very good at dealing with them (however, the same thing can be said with any relationship I form... but I digress...).

In conclusion (so that I stop rambling): Go getter' tiger. (ugh)

Layabout · Mon 02/08/2004 06:12:04

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DGMacphee · Mon 02/08/2004 11:57:09

I've heard all about Shifty Ryan's Essence of Manwhore -- it's really just a pheromone made from LSD.

DragonRose · Mon 02/08/2004 12:50:22

Quote from: Pirate Jack on Mon 02/08/2004 06:12:04
You need to buy my patented 'essence of ManWhore'!!! Its special formula will turn you into a ladykiller!!! Oh yeah!

Disclaimer: Please do not turn into a ladykiller. Most women do not appreceate being killed, and being able to talk to their corpses isn't really anything to be proud of.

Layabout · Mon 02/08/2004 15:30:31

Quote from: DGMacphee on Mon 02/08/2004 11:57:09
I've heard all about Shifty Ryan's Essence of Manwhore -- it's really just a pheromone made from LSD.

Lies... ALL LIES!!!

It's a combination of numbats stomach and baby.

Krynge · Mon 02/08/2004 16:01:21

haha

I've got a few mates who have this same issue. Not to say I'm perfect when talking to females, but its not that hard to do. One tip - given that you're of age and you drink - if you meet them in a pub/club just have ONE drink, enough to loosen you up a bit and then just CHHIIILLLLL into a conversation. Some girls may be all dressed up or whatever, but its nothing to worry about - chances are if you have a convo with them, you'll realise that she's on the same level as you.

This is an awesome quote from the back of a ute: "I drink to make other people more interesting"

Just remember that, and you'll have NO PROBLEM with self-confidence speaking to women anywhere.

sedriss · Tue 03/08/2004 00:52:32

My problem when I go out, is that i have that ONE drink too many times.. $:-\$

dasjoe · Tue 03/08/2004 01:12:51

either i got no drink at all or i get way too many drinks, and both isn't the good way.. imho.
tonight i was on tghe too-many-side..

InCreator · Tue 03/08/2004 21:38:28

Can't talk? Aw, damn.
So what?
Skip talking (since it's pointless anyway) and warp to the next level immediately then!

just joking...

Main problem, when it comes to talking, should be picking a topic to talk about. If girl is new (in the situation/area/etc), it shouldn't be too difficult:

girl: "Hi"
you: "Hi! Are you new? Haven't seen you before"

...And it should end up with discussion which reveals some backgrounds. Ask where she lives, which routes does she use to go to school/work/etc and try to match them with yours...

After gathering some valuable information, It's time to make an offer that will hit the ticket. For example:

a) "Would you like to have a walk in a deep, dark forest together?"
b) "You sound almost as perfect as myself! Almost... How about us two produce a little superhuman?"
c) "I want to become a bartender one day. Right now, I'm practicing hard. Would you be so nice and ry one of my special coktails?" *walkthrough: use bottle of pills on coktail glass*

etc...

BerserkerTails · Tue 03/08/2004 23:15:22

My father still holds the title for "Worst pickup line that actually worked". When he first met my mother, his first words to her, as he stuck his hand out for a hand shake were:

"Hi, I'm Gordy, the weird one here."

It worked, somehow. I mean, I'm proof! I, myself, usually just act naturally. Go up the girl, say hi, introduce yourself. Then we'll get talking to something, and our conversation will usually remind me of a video game or movie quote, which I'll say outloud. When the girl looks confused, I explain to her the source of the quote, and also warn her that I'm a complete geek, so if she doesn't ever want to talk to me ever again, I'd understand. Most girls find that cute.

And plus, if the girl actually gets the obscure quote, then you know she's a keeper!