Evil's Intense Love... Thing...

[Evil]

Ok, **exhale** I know I might regret this but I have to tell somebody. I may have said this before about me getting in trouble in DC but it has stepped up a notch. Just so you wont be afraid of this big long post I will give you the jist (jyst? ah well).

1.) Evil falls in love

2.) Evil gets in trouble

3.) Evil's girlfriend becomes mentally sick which causes physical sickness

Ok let me start. In my sixth grade band class (played flute. Yes I'm a flute tooter.) I sat next to a girl named Holly. Holly instantly became my arch enemy. I have several scars from some of our fights. Holly is the kind of person that helps everyone and knows them from head to toe (heh). Everybody knows who Holly is. I liked Holly from the moment I met her. I think I was/still am the only who really liked her in a friend/more then a friend way. Well there were some weird female-female things... :p Just kidding. It finally came to a truce between me and Holly after a year of fighting. The reason is that we both realized that we both liked each-other. Holly is an amazing girl. One of a kind. She has a beauty like no other. The only thing that people don't like about her is her family. Which is more of a feel-sorry-for-her thing because her parents are divorced for a reason I really don't want to get into. But I love her so much. Many people find there "soul-mate" and I just happened to find mine as a 12 year old. I want to be with her forever. Despite the stupid things I have done, which I have mentioned before, she still loves me. Back on track with the post, me and Holly both went on the end of the school year, $300 field trip to DC. While we where there, we, um... got it some trouble. One night I was hanging-out outside Holly's room in the hotel we where staying at, much like everyone else throughout the hallway. Holly's room-mate, Kyla, began an ice fight with Holly in the hallway/doorway of their room, which resulted in ice scatted all over the floor of their room. Me being the nice guy I am ( ) went in to help clean up the quickly melting ice which was against the "rules" ("No one except your room-mates may be inside your room").With the luck I have we ended up getting caught in which Kyla was in the hall way picking up and Holly and I where in her room... alone... Yeah I know what you are thinking about. And no, we didn't "DO" anything. But that's not what the teachers thought when they found me in her room. Well I had to call my parents and tell them which didn't go over well. I was grounded for the entire summer. Not to mention I was never to see Holly again. Yeah, your probably thinking "Dude, just move on!!1" (note the 1). Its not that simple. Holly and I have been dating for almost 2 years now. That's longer then some people date before they get married. Longer then quite a few people. Holly and I will stay together as long as I can help it. I would give my legs and arms to stay together. Ok by now you must think "Evil, you stupid l33t! Move one, its just puppy love." Now let me quote something from the most recent email from her...



"I think it is something you should know, you know how I told you I sometimes have anxiety attacks, well I was at a wedding today, and I started shaking really bad and ran to the bathroom, honestly I felt like i was going to puke, but I started coughing really violently, and began to cough up blood. Lucky my mom had followed me to the bathroom, and basically followed me everywhere, I am still shaking. It scared me so much."

When she was little (don't laugh or I'll kill you) she was bit by a rabid dog and now she will have violent shaking attacks. These keep getting worse and worse. I love her and it kills me to hear these things. I literally started crying after I read that. I don't know what will come next. I have been trying to keep my mind off of her to keep me from getting in trouble. After the DC thing I have nothing else to lose in terms of privileges. I will be at home until the end of the school year. I have been doing anything to keep me out of trouble. I have been playing Neverwinter Nights 24-7 thanks to LGM. I don't know how much more I can take before I do something crazy. I don't think Holly can either. Please don't respond with "Teenage love" or "Move On" or that crap. I know where some of you live ...

ps: Sorry for all of the spelling mistakes...

[edmundito]

Hmm... how are you right now, evil?

[Nostradamus]

When you mean "grounded" how bad is it?

I think the opposite of what you said, I think you should tell your parents about their situation, they have to let you see her. I think you should be with her supporting her. YOu shouldn't stay away from her because she has a disease you have  to be there and support her because you love her, that's what boyfriends are for.
I don't see any reason why you shouldn't stay together. Maybe there are things you're not telling us?

[Evil]

Netmonkey: I'm... Ok, just a little tense. Not suicidal if thats what you mean...

Nostradamus: I agree. Though the last time I tried to talk to them they called Holly's parents in fury and they tried to get Holly to go to a shrink or something. I'm trying to get Holly to say something to her mom so she will call here. I think it would work better. But so far no luck...

[Miez]

When she was little (don't laugh or I'll kill you) she was bit by a rabid dog and now she will have violent shaking attacks. These keep getting worse and worse. I love her and it kills me to hear these things.

Christ, that is f*cked up - I really feel for you. The only thing I can suggest is: keep in touch: mail her, call her, talk to her - as often as you can (without becoming a nuisance obviously). I really hope this works out for the best.

And what's all this "never to see Holly again" sh*t?!? ('scuse my French) Why not? Any good reason? Don't let people put you down like that - not even parents or teachers have that right, I think. Boy, I'm getting all emotional about this.  

[edmundito]

D'oh!!!!
I meant, how old are you now. I forgot to add the old to that sentence!

oh, and you don't have to apologize for spelling mistakes.

[BOYD1981]

i don't want to sound rude or anything, but stick two fingers up your parents and go see her anyway, i think parents that ground their kids and "forbid" them from seeing somebody are just stupid and should go work in a prison rather than have kids...

[Raggit]

How old is Holly?

What has her doctor told her about these attacks?

That's a sad story. What do you want us to tell you? (I'm not attacking you or anything.)

And what EXACTLY did your parents ground you for?

[LGM]

That's fucked up..

I really care about Holly and that is really scary..

I say you should kill your parents.. I mean.. You were just in the wrong place at the wrong time and they're punishing you for that?

Did you tell them what really happened?

Man.. That's so wrong.. Just run away.. You can live with me.

[MachineElf]

Wicked, man! Don't give up this fight!

Your parents seem to be little overprotective but I guess that's just what some parents are like (I could just spit out some of my prejudices against american middle class here, but I won't...). Either you swallow it or you spit it out. Holly seems to need someone who cares for her (don't we all?) so try in any way you can to do that. And don't think you'll never see each other. If there's love, there's hope. This might be teenage love or anything, but why would teenage love matter less than any other love?

[Dmitri]

I'm not exactly good at advice in this subject.

Obviously you'll be able to see Holly again... I mean, when you're a 30 year old man, you're not going to be saying "I can't see Holly because mum told me not to..."

Holly's anxiety problem does seem a touch serious though. I think you've let a skeleton out of the closet there. I don't know enough to presume anything, but I will presume that her parents are doing what they can to help her...

In the grand scheme of things, if Holly is your soul mate, then you will know her for a good long time yet. And long term relationships tend to become very bumpy rides. It's just the way it is, the sun doesn't shine forever, not every love story has prince charming and princess wonderful. All I'm really trying to get at here is that eventually this time will pass.

[Evil]

Holly and I are both 14. I dont think she has seen a doctor about it. I really dont want her to because I dont want to hear anything bad... Apparently my parents are afraid I will do something bad. My parents were married in December and I was born 6 months later so I think they dont want me to do the same...

[Miez]

I dont think she has seen a doctor about it. I really dont want her to because I dont want to hear anything bad... Apparently my parents are afraid I will do something bad.

Evil, listen - I don't agree with you: NOT knowing something like this is a lot worse than knowing what it is. If you know what (if!) something is wrong, then at least you  and Holly can deal with it, not knowing only makes you scared.
That's what I think ... good luck!

[Darth Mandarb]

Speaking as a man very much in love, I know what you're feeling and how not seeing her makes you insane.  My girlfriend lives in Florida (I'm in Michigan) and not being able to see her every waking moment is pure torture.

Having said that ... I do have some thoughts:

I'm inclined to believe she's already been to the doctor.  If her mother followed her into the bathroom (as suggested in her e-mail) and saw her daughter vomitting blood, I'm inclined to believe she'd take her to the doctor on her own without your influence in the matter.

I don't understand why your parents would ground you for 'accidentally' being in her room.  I'm sure there's more to the story than you're letting on (and that's okay) which would make the situation more understandable to those of us not involved.

Fate is a strange thing ... if you're meant to be with Holly then Fate will show you the way.  But it won't hold your hand, you've got to take the chances, make the effort, and see it through.

Either way, I hope it works out in the end.  

dm

[Helm]

* Helm makes an abrasive remark and everybody else roll their eyes and go "ah that crazy Helm"