Rarely do I post something as serious or disturbing or personal as what I am about to but I need some different opinions and perspectives. I just found out that my girlfriend/fiance of almost 4 years has been having an affair for about the last month or two. She says that it is over between the two of them and that she loves me and she wants to work things out between us. Meanwhile, I am a mess, I am heartbroken and devestated. She seems to think that this is something that I can just forgive in a short period of time. She has never been cheated on and obviously can't understand the pain and betrayel that comes with being cheated on and deceived. I love her, I do, I know that. We have a 2 and a half year old child together and my 9 year old daughter would be devastated if she were to leave. I'm just really messed up right now and confused. I have disturbing images going through me head and tons of pain and sorrow. What would you do? How would you go about trying to work through this? What would you say to her? I'm really at a loss for words...... :'(