I'm gonna probably receive some hate and flake for saying this but I feel feel this needs to be said. Meowster, your entire story seems incredibly one sided and exaggerated. No one is perfect. Most of us all have parents that did stuff while they were raising us that they later. It used to be perfectly socially acceptable to beat your kids as long as no permanent damage occurred (not that its a good thing fuck no). I also question why in his 20 year stint you never attempted to arrange a intervention. My dad got hooked on cocaine and heroine from when I turned 10 to when I turned 19. After a family intervention he went into rehab and he's been clean ever since. It seems to me your dad's been crying out for help for a long time but he didn't know how to say it. I know it may seem like he deserves his situation but that attitude makes you no better than your dad. You can still make it right.
Also, your dad isn't a sociopath. I just brought this to my brother who is a psychiatrist and he confirmed that.
Also, your dad isn't a sociopath. I just brought this to my brother who is a psychiatrist and he confirmed that.