QuoteScenario one is cheating. Period. Scenario two is mentally cheating, which is even worse, in my opinion.
I totally second that.
If I was boyfriend in either of situation, I'd consider quick and bloody breakup.
If a girl needs to kiss someone other OR spend time with mentioned co-worker to be happy, she's not happy with me. Atleast, not enough. So - bye.
Physical contact is immediate act of treachery, which is atleast fair and concrete. In second scenario, I wonder how girl could look into boyfriends eyes and tell him she loves her. While she admires someone else and her boyfriend isn't the only person she wants to spend her life with. There's guilt and faking written all over it and I wouldn't respect person who could take this as normal relationship or life. Does she even respect herself? If yes, how could she?
Commitment is holy. There's no place for lies in this. Not even lying to yourself.
I don't give a f**k about political correctness in this, i.e - "we didn't do anything". If you dream about being with someone else or need to be, don't slam the door on your way out.
Yes, I am quite jealous type. But I'm also loyal as hell and expect same.