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Too late DG...  I already told her that.  Personally, I expected it to work better than it did.   

I sorta forgot about this thread.Ã,  But thanks, rharpe!

She wants to know if we could be more than friends someday.Ã,  I said I had no idea.Ã,  But probably not.Ã, 

I hope she won't go back to her boyfriend.Ã,  She said if he can "prove" himself to her, she will.Ã, 

Anyway, she hasn't pursued me anymore about a relationship, so maybe breaking up with her boyfriend was all she really needed.

Hopefully for her.  And then, later on, if things change between us, hopefully for both of us.

Tell her you lost your penis in a camel riding expedition and therefore feel no attraction for anyone anymore.

While we wait here... DG, it's not all in the penis, one can still feel attraction to someone without it. After all, the hormons come from the part I'm too lazy to look the English word for.

I believe the word(s) you're looking for are "testicles," "nuts," "balls," "baby-makers," and or "nads."


Uhhh... so she was there today.  And she was in a fantastic mood.  We talked CASUALLY, and she broke up with her boyfriend over the weekend!  So that probably explains the good mood.  She was still flirting with me, but I reminded her that I just wanna be FRIENDS.

Now, hopefully, her boyfriend will leave her alone.

Well,

Today's the day.  I haven't got a clue if I'll see her or not.  If I talk to her at all, it's gonna be real casual. 

If she wants to talk about "us" again, I'll just tell her what I already told her:  It's not realistic.  She's too far ahead of me in her life, and she needs somebody who is more where she is at. 

Wish me luck!  I'll update y'all afterwards.

You could have this girl in your bed with the click of your fingers. Just sleep with her and then totally avoid her. If she keeps harassing you take out a restraining order on her.

Yeah, that'd work real good!Ã,  Ã, 

If she wanted to cuddle afterwards I'd have to tell her I couldn't because I gotta go throw the condom away and get a restraining order.Ã, 

ProgZmax,

Exactly.  That's why I'm not wanting to get involved any further.

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which either made her oblivious to his psycho-nature or made her see his negative qualities as a challenge to overcome

It's obvious why she's with her current abusive boyfriend.

It's amusing just how many of you immediately accept she has an abusive boyfriend with absolutely no proof.Ã,  Wake up call:Ã,  Women lie when they want to.Ã,  With her already questionable behavior, how can anything she says be believed without evidence?Ã,  The answer is, it can't.Ã, 

My advice stands:Ã,  Get some proof to back up her claims if you are that interested in a future with her.Ã,  If not, tell her to leave you alone and move on.Ã,  The last thing you need is to get mixed up with someone who fabricates events for sympathy, trust me.Ã,  End of line.

ProgZmax, I might be a little more skepticle of her claims too, except that the first evening she was over at my house, her boyfriend called demanding to know if she was here or not.  That pretty much answered my question.  I also met this guy, but only once.  He wasn't overly friendly.  But I didn't talk to him enough to make a judgement. 

(Probably should've mentioned this stuff if my original post.)

Woops Chicky, really didn't read enough my original post.   

This has nothing to do with on-line dating.  This girl is in the same classroom with me everyday at school. 

Increator, been there done that.Ã,  Ã, She says she invisions OUR future.Ã,  Us, together.Ã,  Forever and ever.Ã,  It's destiny.Ã,  She's been sent to me by God himself.Ã, 

"Hi Loraine, I am your density."

Back when I thought we were just being friends, I said that she was welcome to come over or call on the phone if she ever needed to talk.Ã,  But now I'm not sure how to tell her that she's welcome AS LONG as it has nothing to do with trying to make me her lifemate.

Out of curiousity, what "background" is she from? (since you mentioned your background is different from hers)

She says she is from an abusive, broken, homeless past.Ã,  The way she acts that's either very true, or she's just a great actor.

BTW, I decided not to call her back.  I told her last night on the phone I'd see her Monday, and that's exactly what I'm gonna do.

Update:

Okay, she just showed up at my house about five minutes ago.  I saw her pull in, and then a second later she knocks on the door.  I decided not to answer.  Then she rings the bell.  I still don't answer.  Then she hangs around for about five minutes more and drives off.

Now, the phone just rang and it was her saying she was just by my place and wants me to call her back.  Now what?   

Ã,  Ã,  Ã, The only question I have is how do you "REALLY" feel about her? I mean putting aside the boyfriend.......

How do I feel about her?  Well, I have to admit, I was feeling attracted to her.  One half of me wanted to continue the "relationship."  The other half was like, "Dude, wake up!  You just turned 18, you gotta keep a clear head to get your education, go to college, and pursue your career.  You aren't ready to jump into a relationship with somebody who is already so far into her life."

I now know I did the right thing.  I just hope I know how to deal with her from now on.  I do feel sorry for her.  But I don't want either one of us to get the wrong idea again.

This is a tremendous story, but I gotta tell it because my head is spinning.Ã,  However, I have some certainty that I'm not the only one who's been through something like this.

Ooookay,

So there's this girl in my class.Ã,  She's twenty years old and has had two kids.Ã, 

We got to making small talk the other day, just casual.Ã,  She tells me about her kid that she just had with her boyfriend who is really controlling and psychopathic.

The weekend goes by, and I see here again on Monday.Ã,  We talk some more, and start to get a little more friendly.Ã,  She's really warming up to me, because nobody has ever really treated her very kindly, and she doesn't know what it means when a guy is just nice to her.Ã, 

Then she's like wanting to come see my house and bring her kid over so he can see my pets, so I'm like, okay whatever, and she does.Ã,  Before coming she makes this weird comment, "I gotta get permission first."Ã,  Okay, that was kind of weird since she lives independently.Ã,  As it turns out, her boyfriend makes her check in and out with him before she goes anywhere, and has to know how long she'll be gone, etc.

She comes over, stays awhile, and we start talking about her relationship to her boyfriend, and that she really should get out of it, and that she knows she should and stuff like that.Ã,  I was just trying to be understanding here, and listen.

Then she realizes she doesn't have a whole lot of gas in her car.Ã,  So I'm like, okay, I'll follow you a little ways back to your house and make sure you don't run out.Ã,  It was dark and she was in an area she didn't really know.Ã, 

I see her the next day, and she's like, "I couldn't sleep last night.Ã,  I kept thinking about you."

I couldn't really sleep either, but it was more out of concern that her boyfriend would beat the crap out of her for being out past her "curfew."

Turns out she was up at 5:00 in the morning writing me some poems.Ã,  And then after that, she starts giving me poem after poem, and we're like passing notes, and I'm really confused, but for some reason I'm sort of liking this.

Over the next couple of days, we spend time after school together, talking and stuff.Ã,  I'm still liking it, and she is REALLY liking it, and by this time she's convinced that we're soulmates and that we're destined to be together.Ã,  Okay, I'm not that sure at this point.Ã,  After discussing this with a close friend of mine who's been through this kind of situation before, he says to end it immediately before it gets too far.

So the day after that I go to school with every intention of breaking this thing off immediately, but don't.Ã,  Instead I get drawn into it a little further.Ã,  I mean, we seemed to click together well, and we spent that evening together talking.Ã, 

That night, the reality comes into focus:Ã,  She's 20, has two kids, we come from completely different backgrounds, and I'm not ready to get involved with somebody who has two kids and an insanely controlling boyfriend.Ã,  There is no sane reason to pursue this "romance" that has sprung up over a period of about a week and is based on nothing but emotion and no concrete understanding, with her still under the control of her crazy boyfriend who she wants to get away from soon.

The next day (today) I end it.Ã,  She gets upset, but isn't really crying.Ã,  She doesn't say a whole lot.Ã,  Then she asks to leave early and takes off.Ã,  I feel bad, but know that I did the right thing.

Now, she just called me up a minute ago and wanted to know if she could come over to "hang out."Ã,  She also wanted to bring a friend of hers over that I just barely met.Ã,  That'd be pretty akward, and I suggested that we wait a few days and level ourselves out before getting together again.Ã,  I said, okay, I'll see you at school.Ã,  Then she's like, "I don't know if I'll be there."

Now she's probably thinking that it'd be too painful to sit in the same classroom with me.Ã,  Hopefully she's not going to drop her education because of an infatuation.

Anyway, so that's what has happened to me the past week.Ã,  Now I'm wondering whether or not I should try to be a friend to her, or if I should try to distance myself from her, or what.Ã,  Is she going to become obsessive and call me constantly, and come over to my house all the time?Ã, 

Will her jealous boyfriend beat her up for this?Ã,  Will he beat me up?Ã,  Will he come to my house drunk and stoned and tear up my car, property, and ME?

This whole thing is crazy, and all I can say is I'm glad it's come to a halt now, and not later.Ã,  I just hope it goes away quickly and quietly.Ã, 

Tuomas, what they're REALLY doing (in Iraq) is called imperialism.  But they CLAIM to be bringing "democracy," and try to suggest that with Bush's clever title, Operation Iraqi Liberty.  (Later changed to Operation Iraqi Freedom after the unsettling acronym was discovered in the first title.)

In all honesty, I'm not particularly worried at this time.  So North Korea might have the bomb. 

My main concern here is that my country (U.S.A) is going to freak out and go all Operation North Korean Freedom and stick its nose where it doesn't belong, and thus provoke something we all really don't want to see.

America can't just sit around 'n wait fer the terr'ists who hate us for our freedom to drop the biggun on us!  We don't want the smoking gun to be a mushroom cloud!  We've gotta fight 'em there so we do not have to fight 'em here, and so we can keep our freedom of speech and proceed to ban flag burning!

Okay, here's my pitiful blog.  Those of you who couldn't see my pic in the Long overdue post your picture here thread, you can see it here. 

http://raggitsbubble.blogspot.com/

I really haven't a clue what to do with this thing.

Queen Kara, 

By saying that there ought to be more games geared towards females, do you mean that there should just be more female playercharacters, or geared towards females in story and gameplay?  Or both?

I myself would love to find more serious adventure games based on romance and love.  I don't believe that things dealing with emotions and romance are just for girls and things with explosions and action are just for boys.  If it's fun or interesting, I'll play it. 

I agree that what commercial games there are for females, most are crap, with their little pink boxes, and stuff.

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That's a bullshit argument to my point, thus fuelling the retarded nature of this thread.

DG, just because you use that in response to everything everybody tries to say, doesn't mean you're right.

Now before you accuse me of bullshitting here, let me say that I don't give two craps either way about an all-girl AGS team.  If any men here have a problem, they can start their own all-boy AGS team. 

I think there were some good points in your original post, but they were rather hard to find beneath all the sarcasm.  Perhaps toning back on the sarcasm would be helpful.  Then people would see your points more clearly without taking it so personally.