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Well, great, now I feel even more abnormal.

I just hate how there's so much pressure on women to be sexy, but not so much for men. It's not fair.

...however in theÃ,  sexual world Woman have lot of power, BEACAUSE of all the sexuality around, men want sex, thats the primel drive in the back of our heads. while woman nw a days both flaunt there appeal, yet are protected by laws and feminest mores.basicly it feels to me lke living in one big tease.

What if I don't want power? What if I don't flaunt my appeal? If men find me attractive, then it's their fault. I'm honestly not even trying.

About guys and their money... I have to say that's a pretty base way to look at it. Attractive men are about being exceptional in many ways, about rising above of the pack. That Simpsons episode comes to mind (Bart:"what is it about the good-looking rebel that plays by his own rules?" Every female in proximity lets a lustful sigh ) Money's a way, but it's not only that. I've never felt threatened by the presence of a wealthy man in my life, nor will I ever. I've felt threatened by awesome artists, people who are more knowledgable than me, very handsome men, better guitarists, even people with longer hair than mine (not that I ever meet that last type any more) but more money? No.

Okay, then if it were a woman who, say, was a better artist, or more intelligent, or whatever threatens you, would their attractiveness, to you, be hindered?

As for the rest of the stuff you said, I'm definitely all about being myself. I don't see how I could possibly be anyone else. I guess it means I'm doing the right thing, and I should just hang in there. What a comforting notion indeed.

Okay, I'll jump on the bandwagon. Here's a never-before-released screenshot of the intro screen of The Game That Takes Place on a Cruise Ship



In case you're curious, I plan to have the game itself released exactly a month from now, in commemoration of Pi Day. Excited? Thought so.

Interesting...

I know that a lot of women don't give a rat's ass about objectification or being treated like a human being or whatever. Often, I read women's magazines and am mystified at the fact that they (very generally speaking) tend to advertise that beauty and sexiness are the highest ideals one should want to reach. Not that I'm saying that magazines are brainwashing people or anything; on the contrary, they reflect a sentiment that's already out there, and has been during much of history. Women want to be sexy... don't they?

I'm personally not a very feminine person. I'm a geek, after all. I'd rather read books than shop for clothes, and I'd rather tinker with my computer than experiment with makeup. I've been in relationships before, but I've always valued the mental connection I had with said people than the pure animal lust of it all. The sex instinct has always been there, but I find that it's not very important, and not a very overpowering force in my life like it seems to be for a lot of people.

I admit, when I encounter women who "bring objectification upon themselves", I don't understand them. My first instinct is to think they're stupid, or that they've been unconsciously influenced by our male-dominated society. Still, I can't read people's minds, and have no right to make such judgements. But that doesn't stop me from not understanding.

I also admit that I make it sound as if there's some sort of beauty-intelligence dichotomy. I don't really mean it that way. I'm sure that there are smart women out there who like to be sexy. Still, intelligence is a multi-faceted description that applies to many different things; even IQ tests are controversial in their limitation. What I really mean when I say "intelligence" is geekiness. When most people think of geeks, they think of guys, and they think of physical unattractiveness. For a girl to be a geek is the kiss of death because (again, speaking very generally) there is more pressure for girls to be attractive than guys. After all, ugly men can be quite popular among women, as long as they're rich. But when a man encounters a woman who makes more money than he does, he often feels intimidated, and his manhood seems to be undermined. (I'm not a man, though, so correct me if I'm wrong.)

So, the question (amidst all the generalizations) is... where exactly do I fit in?

Michael Jackson.

It's when the boyfriend bleeds every month instead of me.

If the C in Cittens stands for Canada... sure.

whoa wow instead of existentialist retort or post-modern deconstruction might I suggest a more compatible boyfriend?

A boyfriend period would be nice.

Dear Deidre,

Someone started a thread about swinging in a forum I frequent. It started off fine until a religious fellow realized what it was about and flipped out. Once that was over with, everyone on the forums started posting creepy posts in it. So my question is this: I keep dying at the beginning of Space Quest 1! How do I avoid the guards?!

Sincerely,
Constantly Slaughtered by Sariens

Dear Constantly,

Play a LucasArts game instead. That'll help you lessen your chances of dying.

Love,
D-diddy

Dear Moon and Starstruck,

If you answer 'no' to any of the following questions, then you may be at a high risk of being the Nerevarine.

1.) Do you think pornography is wrong?
2.) Do you think fornication is wrong?
3.) Do you think cheating is wrong?
4.) Do you think adultery is wrong?
5.) Do you think immodesty is wrong?
6.) Do you think erotism is wrong?
7.) Do you think polygamy is wrong?
8.) Do you think sodomy is wrong?
9.) Do you think hedonism is wrong?
10.) Do you think incest is wrong?

Consult your doctor for appropriate medical aid.

Yours Truly,
D

I know. However, since as far as I know, I'm the only one here with a name similar to Deirdre, I thought I'd just have some fun regardless.

I'm not sure, but aren't medusas freaking poisonous and thus dangerous? I would never have a poisonous seacreature mess with my sex life, that is if I had any... any medusas

Well, if you act like a gentleman towards her, then I'm sure you won't have any problems. Except for the fact that she might see you as chauvinistic and old-fashioned, of course.

Rainbows are so gay.

Sorry if I'm hijacking but we already have one giant thread regarding sex at the moment so I figured no point in starting a smaller one. Firstly, I have the stamina of.... something with lots of stamina, when it comes to the bedroom. Cool huh? Unfortunatley its because Mr Southbound Trouser Train never arrives at the destination. He can when it comes (no pun intended) to some other things. But during sex its a no go. What in the hell is wrong with me? :O

I guess now you know how it feels to be a woman.

Dear Deirdre,

Long time reader first time writing in!

I was just writing in to ask you how would I go about getting past the medusa creature in the desert to the left of Mannanan's cottage? My boyfriend and I have been stuck for weeks and it's starting to ruin our gameplay experience! Any help would be greatly appreciated!

Signed,
Lost in the Desert

Well, first of all, my name's spelled with an 'a' at the end, not an 'e'. I sure as hell ain't Dr. Dre. As for the answer to your question, give the medusa creature your porn collection. As a radical feminist, she'll be so appalled by the objectification of women and furniture depicted therein that she'll just spontaneously combust.

Noone except Christ Carter...

I love that typo...

...but you're really good at finding racism in things that have no racism, like the X-Files so maybe I got the point across wrong.

Things that have no racism at all, or things that have no more racism than everything else?

I think it's unfair to say that racism is specifically a film noir theme. I also think it's unfair to say that film noir does not contain any racism. Everything is a product of its time; racism was prevalent in the time of film noir, and it's still prevalent, though less obviously than before, today. I think ildu summed up my point on this quite well in an earlier post.

You can not believe what someone say to you, just because they have a degree. You must question what is told you, no matter what authority the person talking to you have.

Should we question what you are telling us about questioning what is told to us, then?

I wouldn't say authority is useless; if people have done a lot of prior studies and found relevant concrete evidence to support a point, it is certainly more useful than speculation from someone who isn't an expert on the subject. However, if the authority in question is irrelevant, then that's when you should be questioning. It is, after all, a logical fallacy to say that nine out of ten dentists agree that boxers are better than briefs.

But I thought AGS was best known for being so easy to use that even n00bs can use it!

Yes but would you agree that sometimes an alien is just an alien?

Well, since as far as we know, aliens don't exist, we tend to use the concept as a metaphor for, well, anything that's mysterious and unknown. And even if aliens do exist, the way we often hypothetically react to them speaks volumes: freak out and blow them to bits because we assume by default that they're going to blow us to bits.

When you get movies with cute and friendly aliens rather than evil, destructive ones, the poor creatures tend to still get misunderstood and feared. They just can't win, can they?

The fact that aliens are even called aliens at all also speaks volumes.

You don't mean numbers as a whole, I suppose . I guess multiplying XVIII*XIXÃ,  or IK*IH is going to be a pain since I'm used to 1,2,3..., but it can be done.

True, but in that case, you won't be able to use the concept of zero...

Can somebody give me examples of films/series/books that are not xenophobic, racist and all the things mentioned in this thread?

By that, do you mean stories that include no mention of xenophobia at all, or can we include stories that seem to speak out against xenophobia rather than treat it as normal?

I can think of plenty examples of the latter, but not many of the former. I think it shows that fear of the unknown is still a very prevalent problem that we're still combatting today, rather than being at a point where we can just plain act as if it doesn't exist.