BDSM = happiness!

[lo_res_man]

I love spicy food as well.  BDSM however doesn't appear like it would appeal. One could use the argument "you don't know till you try it". However, trying a new food is one thing, it is quite another to get all tied up and gimped, to find out then I don't like it. Rather too much of an investment of time and effort and I wouldn't want to hurt the other persons feelings by quitting while they are enjoying themselves. As I hope I have made clear however, if it is your thing, it is your thing. I just, at present, do not believe if it my thing. I don't think it would fair for me to say that anyone twho doesn't share my interest in futanari is repressed. I only ask that others give me the same respect considering BDSM.

[Lionmonkey]

So you're saying you're happy you haven't tried it, or you're happy even though you've not tried it?

I'm very very happy because I haven't tried it.

[TheMagician]

^^And why does it make you happy?
Because you think it is sick and a sin?
Or because you're happy that you have a fulfilled sex life without being tied up? 

[Andail]

So you're saying you're happy you haven't tried it, or you're happy even though you've not tried it?

I'm very very happy because I haven't tried it.

How do you know that's why you're happy? Maybe you're happy for another reason?

[Tuomas]

I could say I'm happy because I haven't tried LSD. But that's not really a reason to be happy. I'm happy i'm not addicted to LSD, that realyl is a reason to be happy... afaik.

Lo_res_man, you're right. As long as it makes them happy... or horny, everyone should do what they want. The point is not to close in into a husk and claim you're happy. Of course, not knowing better makes you satisfied with what you've got. I guess...

[Makeout Patrol]

I'm extremely open-minded when it comes to these issues. As long as sex is consensual and doesn't involve minors or animals, then hey, whatever floats your boat.
I can easily understand that the missionary is too repetative and unimaginative for many people. And besides, if you have a sexual desire to be tied up and whipped, it's not your fault, we can't exactly decide what we get turned on by.

Then again, having a constant wish to be dominated seems to me, even when I try to be liberated, as a complex psychological issue involving shame, guilt or bad self esteem. Maybe just prejudice...

I guess that it doesn't really hit you at first, but a really big part of it is trust; there needs to be a lot of trust between the partners, and they can both have a lot of fun based on it.

I'd also point out that the phrase "BDSM" encompasses a number of different fetishes, and very few people are really into all of them.

I'm very very happy because I haven't tried it.

So it's not for you, and that's fine, but wouldn't you agree that it makes sense that people who aren't afraid to indulge in their fetishes and more unusual and taboo desires are likelier to be happy?

I could say I'm happy because I haven't tried LSD. But that's not really a reason to be happy. I'm happy i'm not addicted to LSD, that realyl is a reason to be happy... afaik.

This is off topic, but just FYI, acid isn't physically addictive.

[Lionmonkey]

^^And why does it make you happy?

I honestly don't know, I just feel a striking sensation of happiness each time, I remember a thing called BDSM and realise I haven't experienced it. But that's me. I've been biting and eating 10x10x3 mm pieces of flesh off my arm just because I was bored and had nothing to do. Everyone should just do whatever he/she/it finds most enjoyable.

[Ultra Magnus]

One could use the argument "you don't know till you try it". However, trying a new food is one thing, it is quite another to get all tied up and gimped, to find out then I don't like it.

But you wouldn't, would you?
That's like seeing if you like curry by trying a phall.
You'd start with a korma or something and work your way up, stopping when you get to you own preference's limit.

As Makeout said, there are a lot of different colours in the SM rainbow.
And there are plenty of different shades of each of those colours, too.
You don't have to dive head first into a gimp mask to experiment a bit.

[lo_res_man]

All this is mildly irrelivent at the moment, as Lo_res_man still hasn't even had a chance  to go at  the old fashioned missionary position. That is correct, Lo_res_man, is a virgin.

[Ultra Magnus]

Meh, you're not missing much.
Sex is vastly overrated.

[Tuomas]

I beg to differ. With the right partner, sex can be better than Ben Jordan.

[Makeout Patrol]

Sex isn't overrated, but losing your virginity surely is.

[lo_res_man]

I beg to differ. With the right partner, sex can be better than Ben Jordan.

*Sigh* Well until I do, it is just me and my hands. I wish I was a contortionist, contortionists have all the fun. 

[Tuomas]

Yeah, I tried that once years ago. It was quite an experience, but if not someone else, I still prefer my hands. Some recent studies actually show, that sex with oneself has increased a lot. Apparently men in relationships masturbate 20% more than 8 years ago. Some might blame internet too, I guess.

[Ultra Magnus]

I read once that people (men, women, other) are around twice as likely to orgasm (proper orgasm, not just come) on their own than with a partner.

I reckon it's because on your own you instinctively know when to go up, down, left, rotate 62 degrees, at exactly the right time, speed, what have you.
A partner, no matter how skilled or "in sync" with you they may be, can never know how stuff feels as much as you do yourself.

As I said, overrated.

But hey, if you enjoy it, more power to you.
It's just not for me, is all.

With the right partner, sex can be better than Ben Jordan.

I personally think Ben Jordan's overrated, too.
Maybe I'm just weird.

[Tuomas]

I read once that people (men, women, other) are around twice as likely to orgasm (proper orgasm, not just come) on their own than with a partner.

I reckon it's because on your own you instinctively know when to go up, down, left, rotate 62 degrees, at exactly the right time, speed, what have you.
A partner, no matter how skilled or "in sync" with you they may be, can never know how stuff feels as much as you do yourself.

As I said, overrated.

Yeah, well, I suppose if you see sex that way. Only a third of women get an orgams on a regular basis. Also, 40% of men say they can't have or have problems with having an orgasm during sex. That's a bigger number than the 5 minutes and opps! jokes everyone makes all the time. The thing is though, most people don't have sex because they want an orgasm. An orgasm is a lot easier, and perhaps better done alone when you can savour the moment as long as you want and do it like you want. Sex is more about being together with someone else, or some more. And sharing it. Having sex only to come is... well, harder of course because your hand is a lot more limber than the person you're tossing around like a bag.

[Ultra Magnus]

Sex is more about being together with someone else, or some more. And sharing it.

Meh, you can keep it. 8)
That sort of thing just ain't my bag.

[Ghost]

*Sigh* Well until I do, it is just me and my hands. I wish I was a contortionist, contortionists have all the fun. 

Surely you mean CARTOONIST. And you're right; we have all the fun. We don't even need internet porn. A pencil's enough.

[Ultra Magnus]

We don't even need internet porn. A pencil's enough.

Because you can draw your own entertainment, or are you just sexually aroused by pencils?

[Ghost]

err... bo... both?  :

No, seriously, let me add one thing to this thread that has relevance. It has been said before, but saying it again will make it a little more true. Everyone to their own taste,
as long as it doesn't hurt anyone who does not want to be hurt, and until everyone involved is of age. I am often puzzled when people start to heat up over that stuff. Aren't we supposed to live in a time when everything is all without taboo?

To think that only 9 years ago, people in music videos looked *NOT* as if they wanted to have sex with you, desperately, right here! We actually had to listen to the lyrics!