my friendz lesbian

[PsychicHeart]

as the above states.
she told me da news, and she's been my best friend for ages.
i'm not a complete jackass, i mean, i don't care that much if it's someone else. but... someone who i've liked for ages going like that... just makes me wonder. i mean, plus she's gone waaaaayyyy goth. i dunno. any suggestions?

[Mr Jake]

Suggestions about what? How does it affect you in any way? Also you might want to consider typing in english.

[Phemar]

Just I mean, she's like 13, and ... that's really is a fine example of hormones screwing with you. I can tell you, next week she'll be straight again.

I mean, no-one's that sure of their sexuality at that age.

And if she is just a friend, it doesn't really affect you in any way. Now if she was a possible partner, then I'd be shattered.

[Raider]

Yeah what zor said. Don't let it get to you.

[Kinoko]

I'm sorry to be a dick, but I second typing in English. You know "the" isn't spelt with a 'd' and an 'a'. Also, you really need to explain that situation if you want any decent responses. Makes you wonder about what? Life?

My suggestion is to give her one behind the bike shed and put some sense back into her obviously screwed up mind. She obviously just needs a good man. I mean, a lesbian?? How dare she?! When you liked her for ages!

Your topic confuses the heck of out me. I know you're substituting a 'z' for an 's', but do you mean, "My friend is lesbian" or "My friend's lesbian" ie. "The lesbian belonging to my friend"?

Again, sorry for being a dick but I find it hard to help myself. If you want my serious advice, just accept it and please type a little more coherently.

EDIT: Also, "moderators suck"? I'm guessing for 'moderating' something you did, like violating the rules, right? Not terribly smart to insult them publicly though, is it?

EDIT: Zor - I agree that there're a LOT of lesbian-phases going on with the youth out there, but don't discount it completely. I was sure of my sexuality by the time I was 8, and most certainly by the time I was 13. It's not that uncommon.

[[Cameron]]

I'd like to third the request for english. It is quite difficult to follow what you say sometimes. And how does being goth affect anything? Goth fashion or lifestyle?

[Gregjazz]

This is the part where I say, "I'm a lesbian, too!"

Er...

I hope you get that joke because if you don't, I'm not going to explain it.

[pslocum]

Psychologists agree that the best way to cure this is to tap the Ã, victim smartly on the eye two times, screaming at them to stop whispering.

Or listen to Kinoko, because she's obviously an expert.

[Ubel]

I was going to say lots of things, but then I read Kinoko's post and she had already said pretty much everything. Only thing I want to quote from her: Remove the "moderators suck" text or someone can get very angry with you. And remove it quickly.

[TheYak]

I was figuring the best thing to do with this thread was just to let it go. Ã, With the amount of thought, coherency, and subject matter put into this one, I don't know what kind of response you could get aside from, "That sucks.. Lesbians suck," or, "Tsk. Tsk. There, there." Ã, 

Your phrasing/spelling would've been fine if it'd been a subject about a new movie, game idea or something where excitability comes across equally well despite it being chock full of "da's" and far too many Z's. Ã, The points already been made but the crux of it is the proof-reading icon under your name.

Anyone with anything useful to add has gone out on a limb and made assumptions about what you were communicating. Ã, Hardly efficient communication. Ã, What I gather is that she's a very good friend of yours but you would've liked there to be more to the relationship. Ã, At this point, she could be certain she's Female-Female, could still be Male-Female, or might be M/F-Female. Ã, Biding your time is about the best you can do at this point. Coupled with the goth bit, could be trying to find her identity or might've actually figured out what it is. Ã, If you're really her friend, you won't act as though the only possibility is identity-crisis. Ã, There's nothing wrong with thinking about that chance, but being supportive of your friends, even if you think they're wrong, is sometimes a necessary evil.

(Also, I'm not sure why you'd have to remove the moderators suck bit.  If I were one, I'd find it about as offensive as being told that I suck, by a total stranger.  Now, if it said I were a poopy-head that'd be different.)

[BorisZ]

Don't talk about that! If someone notices that I red this thread I will be acused of pedophilia!

[Ishmael]

I, among many others, have already suggested typing in English in the past. So my advise is to drop the AGS community off your mind for a short while, during which you find your way into her heart, and show her that it's just her imagination. Then if you feel like coming back here, remeber that the "Start new topic" button is a privilege, not a right. And do keep in mind that we appriciate proper grammar and punctuation too.

[Sam.]

i'm guessing this girl is the same age as you? 13? well, her hormones are probably tearing her apart right now, and any decisions about sexuality are not to be taken seriously. I know plenty of girls who thought they were a lesbian, and even had girlfriends when they your 14-15, but now they know they're not. Its probably just hormones. But if its not, well, theres not much you can do about it, all you can do is be a good friend.

[Nacho]

i dunno. any suggestions?

Yeah, change your sentence under the avatar.

[Chicky]

strange, all my gothic friends are bisexual.

[Remco]

Why are people here talking about being lesbian is some kind of sickness? If someone says that she is lesbian, take it serious, because then it is something she is really struggling with. And to be honest, if your not completely sure, youre not going to tell it for atleast when your 20 or something. Most people even keep it secret untill there death.

But again, please, don't treat begin lesbian as a sickness, thank you.

[Mr Jake]

We aren't. You are the one who seems to be doing so "struggling with it".  People in his thread have been making valid statements, it could possibly be a temporary thing.

[Dowland]

Oh no, there's definite "struggling with it" involved. She can't have "made up her mind" (and I'm not implying here it's some kind of choice---but with the outside positive attitude people such as this thread's starter have ... it's hard to, let alone feel good about yourself, be certain).

I'd be surprised to know how Flukeblake reacted to his friend's announcement ... I mean, I know that at that age, that would've been like giving away my greatest secret, and putting myself in front of a Thespian trial. Be pissed that probably nothing can happen between you anymore, but feel good that she trusts you so much she would come clean with you. (I wouldn't have.)

[Ozzie]

i'm guessing this girl is the same age as you? 13? well, her hormones are probably tearing her apart right now, and any decisions about sexuality are not to be taken seriously. I know plenty of girls who thought they were a lesbian, and even had girlfriends when they your 14-15, but now they know they're not. Its probably just hormones. But if its not, well, theres not much you can do about it, all you can do is be a good friend.

I actually was already very sure about my sexuality at the age of 13, and  that as a boy. It's normally said that girls are 2 years ahead of boys in growth in that years, well don't know.

But it's true, I chatted with a boy a long time ago, he must have been 14 (i was 15 at that time), who thought he was bisexual, but later he meant that it was really just a phase. But maybe he only wanted that I stop flirting with him. 

[Kinoko]

Why are people here talking about being lesbian is some kind of sickness? If someone says that she is lesbian, take it serious, because then it is something she is really struggling with. And to be honest, if your not completely sure, youre not going to tell it for atleast when your 20 or something. Most people even keep it secret untill there death.

But again, please, don't treat begin lesbian as a sickness, thank you.

Well said. That sort of thing really gets on my nerves. We can say "it may be a phase". It may be! But assuming it is... well, you can't. Lots of people are very sure of themselves and mature enough to know their own sexuality at that age and even younger. You can't assume either way, just be supportive. Treating it like a "problem" was what got on my nerves the most. If you liked her, and now you find out she may be a lesbian, that's your problem and you can get over it. Just (and I'm not assuming you ARE, but just in case) don't act as if it's something you need to ween out of her for your own benefit.

The point that she must trust you to tell you something like that is a good one. If she trusts you so much, make sure you deserve that trust. Unless she just told you to scare you off @_@ Which sometimes happens.