paramore - crushcrushcrush...on my best friend's sister?

[Becky]

So what happened to just talking to women (women, not skirts or humans with breasts, thank you very much) and finding out how THEY feel?

[Hammerite]

I have been told that I have overexaggerated the hotness of this chick...

Not by me, though.  :o

[monkey0506]

So what happened to just talking to women (women, not skirts or humans with breasts, thank you very much) and finding out how THEY feel?

Wait a second? It's possible to initiate a conversation with a female without going into anxiety-based cardiac-arrest? :o Since when?


Oh by the way monkey:



P.S. Did you just refer to yourself in third person to post that image?

P.S.S. Yes.

[InCreator]

Go ahead, tell her brother that you are starting to really like his sister.

I don't see why he should be upset about this. If he's okay with it, and you get anywhere with her...
...there's few changes about your life and friendship:

Cons:

* if you ever get into fight with her, hurt her, etc, consider your friendship over too
* her brother should realize that he's getting between you two, you (and her) both bombarding him with questions and messages. That's a crappy position to be in... 
* he could get jealous. That's a family thing. Simply realize the possibility.
* he probably wouldn't feel comfortable if he knew you bang her, beware of random acts of aggression

Pros:

* hard intel! Your friend can solve loads of problems with intelligence, so you'd know really well how to hit right buttons with the girl. Also, you are able to find out rough edges of hers without loads of scandal and mistrust.
* your friend would likely trust his sister with someone he knows and trusts, so he wouldn't be so protective as brothers usually are
* she probably trusts a good friend of his brother much better than a random guy, so it's good too

Overall, that's a game with uncountable pros and cons. Are you sure you can take it?

So what happened to just talking to women (women, not skirts or humans with breasts, thank you very much) and finding out how THEY feel?

And risk with a lie? 
Anyway, I figured this thread is about starting a hunt. And considering if putting friendship on plate is worth it.
What's to ask from girl? If she feels same way, only thing to lose is friendship. If not, no damage done.

I have been told that I have overexaggerated the hotness of this chick...but the fact that I find her attractive at all threw me for a loop in the first place.

You're young. The term "hotness" is actually that's not important variable. Unless all you want is an adventure, in which case if you care about your friendship, it's better not to do it.

[Tuomas]

Lemme tell you one thing: I'm currently dating this girl for 8 months now actually. In the beginning it was a bit awkward. Basically because she was the ex-girlfriend of my best friend, and the best friend of my ex-girlfriend. But we talked about it, and it's all cool now. I'm not sure if this is related to thematter at all, but I just thought I'd tell you.

[Oliwerko]

I have been told that I have overexaggerated the hotness of this chick

Bullshit!

No one can tell that. "Beauty" is a subjective feeling. I don't find her attractive at all for example. But you do much. See? Now on topic: Glad you pushed yourself to tell that to your friend. I have known at least one case that was similar to yours. These cases have advantages: 1. You perfectly know your friend and so does he know you. 2. Usually, the her parents and her brother/your friend is glad that she is dating with someone like YOU, because they know what kind of person you are.
That is the best thing that can happen to you.

Now with the phase 2, I can't help you much, this is my weaker side 

[Stupot]

I would...

But does she know you've posted her picture in a forum full of sex-starved internet geeks?
(I'm assuming we're all in the same boat)

[Jon]

Hey!

I am not a geek 

Monkey, do you know how she feels about you? If you got permission from your mate, then how would it feel to be rejected by her?

[ThreeOhFour]

Ah, another monkey_05_06 Thread About A Girl thread.

At least we get a picture .

Let's see... she's a pretty girl, you're a male with eyes and you've known her for ages. Perfect match for people looking to spend time together. Sure, it might not be true love but that sure as hell doesn't mean you can't have some fun together just being people. I don't see anything wrong with this situation at all.

With regards to the brother issue: if she is interested in you and you guys want to spend time together I don't feel like your best friend should be bothered by it - but then again all people are different. At least seeing as you've been best friends with this guy for a while he knows you're not a complete jerk and therefore will probably have some confidence in your ability to treat a girl nicely. This seems to be something in your favour, no?

I remember in high school one of my really good friends came up to me and told me he'd gone reading through his sister's diary (as bored males tend to do) and found an entry in which she'd confided to her Dear Diary that she had a crush on me. He suggested that her and I get together, which I found interesting considering the girl in question was his sister.

Bottom line is - your friend probably trusts you more with his sister than with some stranger he's never met before.

Good luck, fella. As far as I've been able to tell, you've not hooked up with the other girls you've posted so I'm hoping that this will be 3rd time lucky (this is the third, right, counting phone girl at work (we all knew you wanted her  ) ?)

[Emerald]

I have been told that I have overexaggerated the hotness of this chick...

I think she's cute. Then again, people always say I have weird taste in woman. I tend to find 'cute' far more attractive than 'supermodel gorgeous'.

[zeeman645]

a big thing to think about also is if you want a relationship OR just to have sex with her.

your friend will probably be ok if you want to have a relationship but dont try to just get her in bed (unless you want to ruin your friendship).

also think about her age. if her parents dont want you being with her I'm pretty sure they can press charges.

[TwinMoon]

I want to get to know her. What she thinks about, what she feels, what she cares about in life, what makes her happy, what makes her sad, what she loves, and what she hates...

Sounds like you really like her. I'd say try to find out how she feels about you, or (worst case scenario) tell her you like her
If you really have a crush on her you'll be kicking yourself forever for not trying to find out if it's mutual.

Pictures don't work for me (I need to see someone in person to form a real opinion) but I'd say she's cute. And she's got green walls (if that's her room) so she can't be that bad

[monkey0506]

Yes it does seem that every time I start thinking about a girl I have to go and post about it on the internet. I'm sure there are plenty of people out there tired of hearing about my failed attempts with the lady-folks. I guess in a lot of ways, as I've been known to say before, I sort of feel like this is a "home" in ways for me. This is where I spend most of my time online, and I'd like to feel that I have some "friends" here.

One thing I feel pretty adamantly about is that I'm not just looking for sex. There have been a lot of chicks in my life that sure, as "a male with eyes" I would have liked to "hooked up" with...but I think there may be something more here. Of course it doesn't say much for me that the thing that caught my attention was realizing how beautiful she is...but maybe it was just enough to really make me see that there are so many other things I like about her. The more I think about it the more I feel like she might just be everything I ever wanted.

I'm sure I've probably said that before and made an ass out of myself there too......but this is completely different than any crush I've had before. Not just because she's my best friend's sister, but also because we've known each other for so long.

I've been talking to some (offline ) friends about this, and they say that perhaps it would be best for everyone involved if I just take things slow and try to get to know her before I start trying to actually get into a relationship. It seems the best plan for a number of reasons. I would get to know her myself and see if my feelings for her develop, I could find out if she feels the same about me, the longer I wait to get into a relationship the less awkward the age difference becomes , and it's less likely for anyone to get hurt if we don't actually start dating until we know each other better. So for now at least that does seem the best course of action.

Yet the awkwardness of crushing on my best friend's sister remains when he pipes in with comments such as, (him) "If you married my sister..." (me) "DUDE! SHUT UP! "

[Terrorcell]

(him) "If you married my sister..." (me) "DUDE! SHUT UP!"

That has to be one of the funniest things I have heard in a while.

I'm sure there are plenty of people out there tired of hearing about my failed attempts with the lady-folks.

I enjoy reading these. They are quite interesting.

If you really like her, then you should get to know her first, then as you grow better aquainted, then you could try asking her out.

Good luck.

[Oliwerko]

The more posts like these here, the more I feel comfortable here. I am sure no one is tired about it.

The slow approach is imho a good choice, you can't mess things up. Also, after some time, when you are no more "blinded" by the first shock, you can think more reasonably.

[Dualnames]

Ok, I'll post sth . Sorry Monkey.


"She's hot baby night and day and there's no doubt about it"
"I wanna give her all I've got!!"
"Christine"
"Sixteen"
*guitar riff*
"Christine"
"Sixteen"
*guitar riff*

[Buckethead]

What ever you do, don't sqeeuz before it's yours 

[EldKatt]

...but this is completely different than any crush I've had before.

Of course it is.

[monkey0506]

I'm sure there are plenty of people out there tired of hearing about my failed attempts with the lady-folks.

I enjoy reading these.

Gee, thanks for that.


Oh by the way:



Recognize the poster?

Spoiler

http://www.officialhalo3cheats.com/img/H3_EmotionLandscape.jpg

And yes, it is her room.

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[EldKatt]

She likes Halo? Must be some special girl. Such an obscure underground game and everything.