[I've had a new nightmare... at bottom of page.... this one REALLY BAD]

[Darth Mandarb]

I agree with DG ... in the end, it's your choice.

However, if it were me, I'd kick the chick to the curb.

Sounds to me like she's using your feelings for her to get what she wants, regardless of the consequences to you.

That's just wrong.

Boot her ... sure it'll hurt like hell at first, but it'll pass.Ã,  It's better than draggin' on months and months of misery and anguish.

Now, if you're a sadist who derives pleasure from anguish and suffering, then by all means let her continue to think she's using you.Ã,  Sounds to me like it would be a mutually beneficial relationship it that case.

I doubt that you'd be 'venting' on the AGS forums if it wasn't bothering you though.

[Andail]

Seconded.

When you let her use your feelings in order to manipulate you into doing that and that, it has nothing to do with being chivalrous or noble, it has to do with fear of feeling guilt and remorse.
It doesn't sound to me that you actually care about her, it sounds like you've become dependant on her. Nor does it sound like you pity her, more like you're afraid of hers and your emotions.

Overall, John, you sound a bit over-consumed by this issue. You keep on reporting bad news - nightmares or whatnot - but you do little to acknowledge or appreciate our advice. As Jet pointed out, you do the opposite.

You shouldn't use this forum as your personal therapy room. People here aren't professionals, and even if they were, they would have too little real information to give adequate support.

Cheer up, dude, take part in other discussions, respond to other threads. Distract your mind for a minute.
This may sound harsh, but I'll tell you this as a friend to a friend.

[KANDYMAN-IAC]

thank you... but there is always a little difference between making the decision, and then stepping into it. I stepped into it, or tried to. And something happened that I hadn't expected.

I wouldn't have said that I am dependant on her... I haven't been recieving anything from her for a very long time... there is nothing to depend apon. Maybe if she was telling me she still loved me... but she isn't.

What ends up happening is I made some promises to her based on how I feel... and now we get to a stage where she is upset and telling me she needs that help. I'm scared of the concept of her on her own... because she seems to too easily latch on to people for support, and if i went she would either get herself into a giant mess... or more debt... and latch on to some stranger which she has done before with disasterous consequences.

And I promised her I wouldn't let her get hurt.  I know with her personality type I have to get out... for hers and my own good... but I can't do that until there is some steady ground to stand on.

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that last parts just an excuse isn't it....
I'm not ignoring you guys, or doing the opposite... I guess i could be said to be doing nothing though...

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anybody see any good films lately?

[Matchew]

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anybody see any good films lately?

Eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeem..... I saw Lemony Snicket's a series of Unfortunate events, twas good, but next Saturday I'm goin to see World Police Team America, anybody see it yet?, is it good?


P.S. I realize I have now destroyed your beautiful ending to this thread so I will hang my head in shame. :'(