The School Reports Day-Could I speak to her?

m0ds · Fri 18/06/2004 14:48:21

I wouldn't say those girls are retards, just mis-lead. The majority of them are still pretty fine

And yes, I agree with Oranges, don't talk about yourself - talk about her. Talk about yourself when you're asked a question about yourself! I know this lass that everytime I go round her house (well, used to) she'd talk constantly for hours about herself, and it's really easy to start to hate someone like that

People like being asked questions. It's natural, so ask her questions!

And the key to being a "nice guy" IMO opinion is, offer before you're asked.

SSH · Fri 18/06/2004 14:53:53

Quote from: m0ds on Fri 18/06/2004 14:48:21
And the key to being a "nice guy" IMO opinion is, offer before you're asked.

Nah, it's sincerity: once you can fake that you're all set!

LGM · Fri 18/06/2004 15:02:43

Point seconded

No really, like I said before.. Don't fake anything. Be yourself.

But yes.. Take the initiative. Girls like guys like that.. Mostly.

Pumaman · Fri 18/06/2004 20:41:54

Oh come on, we all know that the true way to a girl's heart is to tell her that you make adventure games.

Moox · Fri 18/06/2004 20:50:48

lol CJ

Girls are all different, use trial and error to get her

Dart · Fri 18/06/2004 23:04:51

Quote from: Pumaman on Fri 18/06/2004 20:41:54
Oh come on, we all know that the true way to a girl's heart is to tell her that you make adventure games.

Actually, if some guy said that to me, I'd be pretty interested in him.Ã,Â

Nacho · Sat 19/06/2004 00:06:34

Dart, I make adventure games... :

MrColossal · Sat 19/06/2004 00:33:34

It already worked once, Farlander

my girlfriend thinks i'm a nerd for making adventure games, but she loves it

shbaz · Sat 19/06/2004 00:35:21

Quote from: MrColossal on Sat 19/06/2004 00:33:34
my girlfriend thinks i'm a nerd for making adventure games, but she loves it

Does she have a sister?

.. or an abnormally attractive mother?

MrColossal · Sat 19/06/2004 00:44:05

awkwardly....

Yes to both answers...

shbaz · Sat 19/06/2004 01:01:41

Quote from: MrColossal on Sat 19/06/2004 00:44:05
Yes to both answers...

Sweet. I wish I could get myself to Mittens.Ã,Â $:-\$

Las Naranjas · Sat 19/06/2004 01:48:32

Quote from: [lgm] on Fri 18/06/2004 15:02:43
Girls like guys like that.. Mostly.

Mostly doesn't like girls though.

zing.

Kinoko · Sat 19/06/2004 05:42:32

The thing you have to realise is that you shouldn't put too much importance on advice that starts like, "Girls are like this..." because girls are people, and hence, different.

I'd like to say that girls will either like you or not, so you might as well ask her out now because fostering a friendship isn't going to get you anywhere. I can't say that though, because that's just my experience, and I know there are situations where anything would work. Just don't think of this as strategy. It's another person, and you have to look at your own situation and make a judgement, none of us here can tell you what to do without knowing the girl as intimately as she knows herself. Sounds wanky? Yes, but true, really. Relationship advice works in stories and sitcoms but in real life there are too many factors in a person and their circumstances to ever really be able to judge a situation.

I'd say just be cool and confident in yourself. Don't fake it, just try to be self confident and... well, if I can generalise a bit, most girls HATE it when a guy seems desperate, or that he needs to depend on you. I've always been attracted to people who have lives without me, not people who hang off of me. If you don't seem like someone concentrating on love, it will probably be a much more attractive quality than someone who's obviously thinking, "I wish I had a girlfriend". Just get on with life and the things you like, hobbies, etc. Telling her you make adventure games is good! ^_^ Show you have passion for things... unless she's a typical teenager, in which case you might want to act sarcastic and hate everything.

I also have to say that the bit about not talking about yourself for ages - GOOD ADVICE! I know a guy that does that and it's so utterly frustrating that he never even asks how I am, just tells me how he is. It's awful. Don't be like that.

Femme Stab Mode >:D · Sat 19/06/2004 06:40:49

I told someone that I make RPGs and adventure games. People simply don't know enough about the whole game making process, for most part, and just say "COoooooOOOOOOOOOOoooOOl! Now excuse me while I go listen to some more death metal" or "How oldschool are those graphics? Something you'd play on a gameboy!" or "I couldn't work out the controls!"

Maybe mention it, but not count on it to become a conversation piece, because it's most likely it would turn into a monologue. Dale Carnegie wrote that to be a good conversationist all you have to do is listen, show that you're listening and ask more questions.

shbaz · Sat 19/06/2004 07:00:13

I agree about not talking about game making. With anyone I talk to regardless of who they are, it's always the same (well, disregarding people who are interested in making games).

"You do 3d art?"
"Yes."
"Wow! That seems so complicated, how do you do it?"

Then after the first, maybe second sentence of explaining how and why it's not so complicated they change the subject, or if I continue talking very quickly show that they are not interested at all.

I've little advice for you really, I'm friends with many girls but boyfriend for none of them. Hard to find anyone to relate to where I am right now.Ã,Â $:-\$

Las Naranjas · Sat 19/06/2004 07:07:46

"Well I use Blender"

Oh shit, I can't believe I actually thought about liking this guy, I mean Blender? 3dsmax is far better, I better change the topic and look for better prospects

"Uh huh, I'm just going to go get some punch..."

Nacho · Sat 19/06/2004 08:56:59

* Farlander thanks Eric for helping me focusing in just one girl...