The School Reports Day-Could I speak to her?

Gord10 · Tue 15/06/2004 13:24:32

Ã,Â Yes, you might have known that it is the school reports day in Turkey as I have told it a few times in the #AGS IRC chat room.Ã,Â We would get our school reports today, and I wouldn't be able to see the girl, who I'm fond of, and in the side class, for 3 months. So I had been thinking of saying to her "Good Holidays!" before she goes...
Ã,Â Ã,Â She was standing in the school garden with her friends while waiting for the SR's (School Report) when I came the school. She glanced at me for several times. Nothing interesting happened.
Ã,Â Ã,Â Then we got the SR's. My SR was good

I had rised the marks which were low, and I got an "appreciation document"; it is given to the students who gets high marksÃ,Â 8) . My average mark was 4,66 and the highest is 5.00. Everyone said it was very good

Ã,Â Ã,Â Could I speak to her? NO!

Let me tell:
Ã,Â Ã,Â We kept standing after the SR's. Then, two girls who are my classmates went to talk to her, because they were her friends. I followed them

My classmates started talking to her; she glanced at me for a second. Then another girl, who is her classmate, and my friend from the school bus appered. I would say to my friend "Good Holidays!"; and maybe to that girl, too. But guess what happened: SOMEBODY THROWED A ROTTEN EGG TOWARDS THE CROWD WHICH WE ARE INSIDE!Ã,Â :o :(Ã,Â $:-\$ ! A girls hair became the egg yellow, and everyone started escaping

. So I could do nothing for the SR day

Ã,Â Ã,Â Yeah, I know it's too long. But I need to share this.

LordHart · Tue 15/06/2004 13:43:19

Dude... you didn't ask her out?! What did everyone say you should do in #ags... just ask her out politely and if she said no, or already had a boyfriend... then at least you'd have the satisfaction that you tried.

I say you ask one of your friends, or one of her friends for her number and try that way. Dude, you gotta be firm and not a spongey like dude (i don't know what i'm going on about with this, i'm tired) but dude... you'll regret it if you don't do it... trust me. $:-\$

Andail · Tue 15/06/2004 13:51:30

Ultimo is right, it's not like it's too late just because school's over.

If you have friends who know her, just ask for her number and give her a call. If you get rejected, just leave it behind you and proceed to next target

SSH · Tue 15/06/2004 13:57:10

The joys of teenage angst...

When I was a young ~~warthog~~ guy, I used to be sooo afraid of asking girls out, thinking that they would automatically and instantaneously tell the whole school who would subsequently laugh at me. In the end a girl askewd me out and I was so stunned I went out with her for a while even though I didn't really like her.

At University (at which point I was only 16, folks) I went to the other extreme and asked loads of girls out all of whom turned me down. I set my sights lower and lower and then asked a girl out who I didn't have much in common with and didn't like that much. She said yes and we wnet out for a while, but I didn't really respect her and that wasn't fair on either of us. My early twenties after Uni were also angst-ridden and generally loveless years, too.

Eventually, after never really having a serious relationship with any girl, I met the gorgeous lady who is now my wife. I would never have imagined it as a teenager. So, don't get worked up about it: only once you reach 30 and haven't had a serious relationship should you start to worry.

Migs · Tue 15/06/2004 14:17:24

Quote from: SSH on Tue 15/06/2004 13:57:10
The joys of teenage angst...

When I was a young ~~warthog~~ guy, I used to be sooo afraid of asking girls out, thinking that they would automatically and instantaneously tell the whole school who would subsequently laugh at me. In the end a girl askewd me out and I was so stunned I went out with her for a while even though I didn't really like her.

At University (at which point I was only 16, folks) I went to the other extreme and asked loads of girls out all of whom turned me down. I set my sights lower and lower and then asked a girl out who I didn't have much in common with and didn't like that much. She said yes and we wnet out for a while, but I didn't really respect her and that wasn't fair on either of us. My early twenties after Uni were also angst-ridden and generally loveless years, too.

Eventually, after never really having a serious relationship with any girl, I met the gorgeous lady who is now my wife. I would never have imagined it as a teenager. So, don't get worked up about it: only once you reach 30 and haven't had a serious relationship should you start to worry.

I was the same way.Ã,Â In high school, I actually would occasionally get enough courage to ask girls to school dances, but I was always so incredibly shy that I wouldn't even talk to my date, forever damaging what granule of friendship I had with them before.Ã,Â Other than the school dances which were usually kind of stupid anyway, I never went on a traditional date until I was in college, when I started opening up to people a little bit, but those usually ended up being duds, too.Ã,Â My relationship with my wife was the first serious relationship I ever had.Ã,Â We really clicked in an inexplicably marvelous way, and we got married six months after we met.

One thing I wish I had realized back when I was a teenager is that there really is no conspiracy.Ã,Â Nobody is gossiping about you behind your back, and girls aren't giggling and making fun of you when you're not around...nobody really cares about you. :)Ã,Â Chances are that you have more friends than you realize, and that people generally like you and would love to get to know you better.

Gord, just ask the girl out.Ã,Â Do more than just say, "Good Holidays!"Ã,Â If you really like her, I think you should ask her out on a date.Ã,Â If she's interested in you, she'll say yes.

Nacho · Tue 15/06/2004 14:18:22

Let me use this thread to announce that I've passed my degree...

And... yes, it is ALLWAYS better to receive a definitive "no" than living in a permanent "maybe" (and you have allways have the chance to receive a "yes")

DGMacphee · Tue 15/06/2004 15:00:54

Do what Andail and Ultimo say, or else you're gonna end up like Charlie Brown always chasing that little red-haired girl.

LordHart · Tue 15/06/2004 21:32:04

Wasn't Charlie Brown gay?! But still yeah, don't turn into Charlie Brown...

Dart · Tue 15/06/2004 22:43:53

Quote from: DGMacphee on Tue 15/06/2004 15:00:54
Do what Andail and Ultimo say, or else you're gonna end up like Charlie Brown always chasing that little red-haired girl.

...but don't be too persistant or you'll end up like Schroeder (the piano playing dude) and Lucy.

Quote from: Os Ã Å¡ltimo QuÃ£o Queijo ^_^ on Tue 15/06/2004 21:32:04
Wasn't Charlie Brown gay?! But still yeah, don't turn into Charlie Brown...

No, Charlie wasn't gay; Marcie was.

Meowster · Tue 15/06/2004 22:50:52

I know how you feel, dude. I never ask girls out.

There's nothing to be afraid of really. I bet girls are just as afraid to ask guys out.

Nacho · Tue 15/06/2004 23:24:30

"Do what Andail and Os Ã Å¡ltimo said"... Come on, I advised him to ask her out too, I want to be popular also!

J/K... About what Dart said... Being persisteng can work, but just in very special circumstances, I agree that it's better not to be it.

In ocasions, it is even effective just to make the opposite and show lack of interest... It's allways tricky and difficult to explain, so, keep us informed.

P.S: To all the girls... Why do you allways preffer the bad guy who is definitelly not in love with you than to the lovely enamoured guy???

shbaz · Tue 15/06/2004 23:45:26

Quote from: Farlander on Tue 15/06/2004 23:24:30P.S: To all the girls... Why do you allways preffer the bad guy who is definitelly not in love with you than to the lovely enamoured guy???

It's probably for the same reason guys like the stereotypical busty blonde chick with nothing in common. If you say, "but I'm a guy and that's not me!" well congratulations, you've just realized the flaw in stereotyping.Ã,Â

I've known many beautiful women who went for the geek who had few friends in school.

Dart · Tue 15/06/2004 23:45:41

Quote from: Farlander on Tue 15/06/2004 23:24:30
the bad guy who is definitelly not in love with you

Heh, that describes Nathan (my boyfriend) when we first met each other. But the feeling was mutual; we both had grudges against each other because he hated my former boyfriend and I just hated his attitude.

Anyway, not all girls like the "dark and handsome stranger" type of dude. In fact, most of the preps at my school prefer to go out with the friendly, popular jocks who'll admit that they like them, rather than the mean punk at the back of the class.

I guess the girls that do like the bad guys will only like them because they want a challenge. They all want to be the first girl to get underneath that dark boy's mysterious exterior and brag to their friends that they did it.

shbaz · Tue 15/06/2004 23:51:15

Quote from: Dart on Tue 15/06/2004 23:45:41
I guess the girls that do like the bad guys will only like them because they want a challenge. They all want to be the first girl to get underneath that dark boy's mysterious exterior and brag to their friends that they did it.

And when they find out it's hollow?

Haddas · Tue 15/06/2004 23:51:56

Nobody likes the fat dude though... I think. I've got some strange hints at school, but I couldn't gather the courage to ask "what do you mean" or anything. Bah, I'm moving to a new school this autumn. I'll probably never see her again ever... ever... ever... ever... ever... ever... ever...... *SIGH*

Dart · Tue 15/06/2004 23:53:57

Quote from: shbazjinkens on Tue 15/06/2004 23:51:15
And when they find out it's hollow?Ã,Â

... then they'll try to fill it up.

shbaz · Wed 16/06/2004 00:06:56

Quote from: Haddas on Tue 15/06/2004 23:51:56
Nobody likes the fat dude though... I think. I've got some strange hints at school, but I couldn't gather the courage to ask "what do you mean" or anything. Bah, I'm moving to a new school this autumn. I'll probably never see her again ever... ever... ever... ever... ever... ever... ever...... *SIGH*

I have a friend who is a few years older than me, hott (with two t's) and she married a hugely fat guy. He's a swell guy, and she saw through all of the fat to see that, I can think of two other people like that.

The girls who wouldn't are people I wouldn't like anyway.

Quote... then they'll try to fill it up.

A lesson in futility.

MrColossal · Wed 16/06/2004 00:21:16

Quote from: shbazjinkens on Wed 16/06/2004 00:06:56
Quote... then they'll try to fill it up.

A lesson in futility.

Or fertility...

WINK WINK!

Peter Thomas · Wed 16/06/2004 00:46:39

Gord - I know exactly how you feel. People say "ask her out", but in High-School, there's a lot of "pressure" surrounding the whole boyfriend girlfriend paradigm. But at least say "Happy Holidays" or whatnot.

You keep mentioning that she looked at you - I don't know if that means she IS interested in you, or if you are just trying to convince yourself that she is (

), but you are absolutely INSANE to ignore a girl who is interested in you (trust me - she WILL think you are ignoring her) and then she'll move on to that tall dark handsome guy behind you and end up having his kids and they'll be really successful and have lots of money and a nice house and car and... okay... maybe I'm bitter...

Just tell your friends that you are going to have a holiday party or something, and invite her along, too. If she doesn't like you, she'll say "no", but won't directly know that you liked her, and if she says "yes" then at least she'll be at your house (or at the movies, wherever) so you can talk to her some more.

But once you go to college/uni/apprenticeship, those things become less important. You realise - as has been said - that people DON'T really care whether you asked them out or not, and they're not going to write it on the toilet walls

Good luck with your holiday "hunting"

Las Naranjas · Wed 16/06/2004 00:49:14

Everytime there's a thread like this, I always read of the "Bad Boy" attraction factor.

Someday I'd actually like to see such a mysterious phenomena.

Surely people aren't confusing it with those boys that have enough damn confidence to tune the girl.

By and large, the most attractive thing you can do is show you're attracted.

...within limits...