Gay, the insult

[SSH]

I am outnumbered by girls in my house 3 to 1. Also, I don't call it a pink car, I call it a car enabled with a chromatic anti-theft device. This relies on the anti-gay prejudice of the common thief and joyrider.

[Ultra Magnus]

...
I don't know why I did that...

If you have to ask, you'll never know.

[vertigoaddict]

I have to say... the comebacks, guys, are just embarrassing...
(Said in the same tone as Joey)
I suppose it's more about how you say it than what you're saying, but daymn...

When I started driving a pink car, people at work used to make jokes but I just said "Does the pink car threaten you, somehow?" and that usually stopped them.

A pink car? That is so gay!

I'm kidding! Jeeze, chill out!

Anyway, my standard comeback has always been...

Them: "You're gay."
Me: "Yeah, you wish."

It gets the job done. 8)

There's this guy who likes to just be silly whenever I'm around, just cause I'm gay. (There's only one guy, now, cause everyone else is already freaked out).

1)

-Are you gay?

-- Are you?

-No!

--Not yet (check him out)

2)

-Are you gay?

-- For you? Anything.

3)

-Are you gay?

--Yes

-Why

--Because you're hot.

4)

-Are you gay?

--Yes

-You're joking right?

--Wanna find out?

5)

-You need a woman dude.

--nah

-Seriously dude, sex with a woman. IS AMAZING!

--Well, when it's two men, you know what feels good and you can hit the spot ev-er-ry single time (leaning closer to him)

6)

-Are you gay?

-- is it 9 pm yet?

-No

--Then no.

-...

--Not good for the kiddies

7)

-How's the sex?

--...

-(laugs)

-- Too much.

8)

-Are you gay

--For the last time! Yes!

- So this'll be your last? you're going straight?

--you wanna be my last?

-sure

9)

(during sports)

-Hey (name) grab the ball like you grab balls!

-- I'm masochistic!

10)

-I like to play a lot of outdoor sports, you know get dirty.
Do you like to get 'dirty'?

-- Nah, usually I stay in the locker room and get dirty there.


11)

-Are you gay

-- No, I'm bi and so are my girlfriendS.

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These are only a few.

Honestly a long time ago I took great offence when people called me a fagot (of course that was when people thought I was straight, strangely enough). There was a time I kept hitting this guy's car because he kept calling me fagot, with him inside of course (they also called me the undertaker, but that's another story).

There was this boy in school, who was obviously gay, moving his hips like crazy, being loud, wearing make-up. He annoyed me, and I mean directly (in fact I was annoyed by alot of people in that school, I was very anti-social at the time). But I had to admit, I must've been a little jealous, he's doing these crazy things, but I don't see anyone bothering him, he was so carefree and brave really, I could  never be like that I told myself (I'm not saying I'm like that now, but I am open about my sexuality)

When I transfered to a different school, I tried not to be anti-social, but because I've avoided people most of my years, I acted slightly awkward (who doesn't in their first day of school). I tried to slowly 'be myself' and come out slowly. After a while, there was this girl who asked me to the prom (she had her friends with her, it felt like a set up).
I told her that I was gay, and asked her to keep it a secret, she promised...that b!tch.

She told EVERYONE and that's how the countless 'are you gay' questioning started.

Funny thing is, my life got better when I'm out than when I was 'in'; maybe it's because I've changed schools, people who go to international schools often have a broader mind, being with different kinds of people and all.

Being different attracts attention, often unwanted attention.

Different is 'interesting'.

Different can mean change and that is probably one of the biggest fears of human beings.

People just can't stop picking on it, it's like an itchy scab; you scratch and scratch, you can bleed and repeat the cycle.
or the scar is covered by a thin layer of new skin; but it won't be the same colour as the rest of your skin.

Why is it an insult to be called gay and why do most of us take offence?

I'm not really sure, but I think the biggest factor is that humans are naturally afraid of change, but are still; at least a little, curious.

[None]

Someone calls you 'Gay' it's an insult...Period.  :' I've never seen it used to good effect. Anytime anyone CALLS you anything, it's more than likely an insult.
How would you feel, if someone jumped in your face and called you a 'Straight' or a 'Norm'. Being constantly labeled, with something like that.

Now if they ask, it all depends on how they say it, the intent behind it. Sometimes it's honest curiousity, sometimes it's malicious. It would be nice if orientation didn't matter to anyone but perspective partners. Too many gay people are treated like circus sideshows.

People, just don't get it. Being gay can sometimes mean you have to present your sexuality like a business card. I want people to define me as a person first, as gay second. Gay has become a synonym, for 'non-functional' or 'stupid' which is sad. But it's lingo, it comes it goes, and gay people can't be sensitive to harassment, it's the way the world is. All we can do is try and take the higher-road, and hope for the best.

P.S. Straight People can't be sensitive EITHER. I mean besides a honed intuition 'gay-dar'. How else WOULD you like people who are genuinely curious to find out? 

P.P.S Check out my blog. http://www.myspace.com/letstalc - further ranting.

[Peter Thomas]

I flinch whenever I hear kids say "that's so gay", but I'm trying to stop. I certainly don't want to flinch; I think I just spent so long trying to 'justify' my sexuality to myself as a younger boy, that I'm hyper-sensitive. I recognise that the children don't understand the impact of their words.

I think the word is evolving in similar ways to swearwords. They can be meant as genuine insults, or they can be harmless comedy, depending on who delivers it. Assuming one way or another is just the quickest path to disaster.

My sig - in my mind - is testament to that. I nearly split my sides when AGA said it.

The boy in the original post probably would have responded the same way, no matter what the word was. Anger management issues, anyone?

[TechnoBard]

Being new to the forum and quite possibly one of the "older" members here (hence exposed to a different set of social "rules" I guess)... I remember when 'gay" just meant "happy"...  :

[Blackthorne]

When people call stuff "phat", it makes me sensitive about my weight.

Bt

[Paper Carnival]

Yeah, well, I'm only nearly 20 years old and I can remember only a few years ago when in my country "pervert" was synonymous to "gay". Now here, there's a (usually) negative word for gay, but we use the english word when we want to be neutral.

Words are only what we make them to be.

[radiowaves]

Why gay people only talk about sex? I think the very good reason why gay marriage and adopted children in gay families is not good because for me, they have given the impression that their lifestyle revolves around sex. Yes, of course women and men flirt etc etc, but there aren't any men saying to woman in a bar that they should sit on their penis, unlike in gay bars...

But on topic.
Gay actually isn't a bad word. I believe it was used to describe something as funny. Its just that homos have taken over its meaning.

[MrColossal]

unlike in gay bars...

Man, if it bugs you so much, go to a different gay bar! You're obviously hanging out in the wrong ones.

[miguel]

GAY -
                                 -adjective-
   cheery, gay, sunny
  bright and pleasant; promoting a feeling of cheer; "a cheery hello"; "a gay sunny room"; "a sunny smile" 

                                   - noun -
   homosexual, homo, gay
   someone who practices homosexuality; having a sexual attraction to persons of the same sex 

[Disco]

...there aren't any men saying to woman in a bar that they should sit on their penis...

There aren't? O_o Maybe men are just a bit more well behaved where you live, because I can't comprehend this.

[Becky]

You know, I hate heterosexuals.  All the time they just talk about wanking and chicks and how much they are or are not getting laid.  And they go around rubbing their personal lives in our faces with their kissing in public and their holding hands and ugh I can't go into a straight bar without some heterosexual telling me how much he'd like me to suck him off.  Sodding straights and their always going on about sex.

[miguel]

Guys, and Gays (bad joke), you could all get along when you didn't know who's gay or not, right?
So...

[None]

Becky...THANK YOU...
BTW, we don't think only about sex, or talk only about sex, or any such thing.
No more so than anyone else does...
We're stable, normal human beings...
I'm still not sure if children is a good idea for gay couples, not because we couldn't handle it.
But because, a prejudiced society has made it too hard.
Kid's have enough to go through, without taking blows from others because 'daddy's a fag'.
Shame but that's the kinda world we live in, a world WITHOUT progress.

[Buckethead]

This is an interesting song:

http://de.youtube.com/watch?v=_qf0puHJ-KM

But this is in the Netherlands and I guess not every country is so accepting.

[Oliwerko]

Becky - but you know, people are programmed to do that. And not everyone does that. I know people constantly talking about alcohol and sex, and other people, who are mentioning these things very occasionaly. One proof: I know of every single girl my schoolmate had (and he is changing them like socks). And, simultaneously I did not know, that my best friend has one, I realized that after a month! There, I realized differences in people concerning these things.

You cannot blame anyone for holding hands/kissing in public, can you? I mean, majority of the worlds population is heterosexual, because people just are originally heterosexual. I really dont have anything against homosexuals. But I think heterosexuals should not be blamed for behaving naturally (in their nature, that is). Do I blame Albert Einstein for being too clever and showing it into the world, despite the fact that I am not as clever as he was? No, we are just different, thats all.

[Becky]

It's just a pointless criticism that TEH GAYZ are always talking about sex when EVERYONE straight or not does it.  I have no problem with people doing whatever in public (well there are limits...) but complaining that in a gay bar that someone might describe a desired sexual activity BECAUSE THEY ARE EVIL AND GAY AND TALK ABOUT SEX is such a pathetic excuse.  Obviously people who talk about sex can't look after kids.  Because kids are immaculately concieved and no naughty-naughty-rumpy-pumpy ever took place.  Ever.

[SSH]

You know, I hate heterosexuals.  All the time they just talk about wanking .

Are you implying that gays don't wank?

[riseryn]

You know, I hate heterosexuals

tell me about tolerance  :