Online relationships... an interesting topic for all ages

[Czar]

is that the one  who was talking with that britney spears and acted as a wizard or something?

[Haddas]

Yes, it's the same guy. I thought the name looked familiar

[edmundito]

Heh, well I think that the whole point is, like Kinoko was talking about, is that if you're going to do it you gotta meet at some point, soon. I think it's kind of bad if you just have some "girl/boyfriend" for years and years online and never get anywhere. You may meet someday, but only for a while and then go back to the online conversations. I saw it's bad not in a "you're pathetic" sort of way, but more of a "it's going to fuck with your mind real bad" sort  of way because you're going to live in this dream world for years and years and then you're going to not realize what's out there, and even miss out on people that actually like you in real life because your mind is off somewhere else.

[Meowster]

I think it's better summed up with this: http://www.agsforums.com/yabb/index.php?topic=9059.0

DeeGee, you are a bastard, darling.

A funny, funny bastard.

[evenwolf]

Well everyone thinks DG makes funny posts.

[Har har]

But have you dragged his post into your cookies?

Do you keep his log in your harddrive?

Or do you prefer removing his floppy disk?

I see that you've inserted his quote into your reply!

[/Har har]

[Alynn]

Ok... here is my story

I just moved to Fort Knox Kentucky  and was going through a divorce with my ex wife... I was out of the dating scene for over 5 years and I really didn't want to jump back into it at all... So basically I sat in my barracks room, ate drive through, watched movies and played videogames... I then saved up enough money to buy myself a new computer... It came with 2 months free internet access through MSN so I went ahead and used it (and ended up keeping it cuz I liked it)... My friends were going on some website to chat, and they were hooking up with chicks left and right... Personally I've never done a one night stand, but at the time I was so mad at women in general I decided to say "fuck it all" and become a male whore... So I jumped on the website...

Basically my real life personality is the same as it is online, spending over 10 years on the internet at this time I know how to get into a chat circle that is already tight... you gotta add something be different... well that worked well and I became quite the regular... So basically I spent my time being a smart ass, it wasn't so much for looking for females... but just someone to talk to... since I really didn't know anybody in Fort Knox... Well there was this girl with the chat handle PAMELA and she just thought I was the funniest damn thing in the world... we spent time making fun of newbies together... and fun was had by all (except the newbies), and eventually we starting talking directly to each other instead of just on the main room...

One day I was feeling particularly rambuncious and I was in rare form... my slams were perfect... timing was on my side... Well Pam was no exception... she got it too... and much to my delight she played back... Then it came to the point where she called me something... what I don't remember... And I said I'm going to kick your ass... she replied well come up here and do it... to which I replied gimme your address I'll be there tomorrow... And she did...

My first words out of my mouth was holy shit! I didn't believe that was her addy at first... but it turns out it was.... So she has seen a pic of me but I never of her, so I asked what she looked like... "I'm really skinny, I have long brown hair and blue eyes. I don't know what else to say." My thought was Ok you are probably a heffer.. but you know what... I have nothing better to do this weekend... and since I'm driving up there I won't have to stick around if I don't like what I see... So the next day I went... and it only took me 9 months to hook up with this chick... when in reality... I really liked her personality... but I'm always weary of getting feelings for people over the net....

Turns out she was skinny... 105 5'6" pretty as hell... and we spent that weekend together... the night I stayed there... well we did hook up... but it wasn't really hooking up... turns out everything about her online was true... she was great... and we didn't hook up... we made love... I made that 140 mile trip (one way) every weekend since then... and we talked damn near all night online when I wasn't there... in the end... a year after our initial face to face meeting we got married....

6 weeks ago she gave birth to our son...

I truely believe I have found the perfect woman... one that understands that the video games and computer that I play with all the time (over 6 hours a day on days I work, and thats not counting what I play at work) does not replace her... and isn't jealous of them... she knows I'm a geek and loves me for it...

So yeah... things sometimes are skeery out there... but sometimes they work out...

If only now we could find a nice girl for the both of us on one of those matchmaking sites..... *sigh* I guess lightning doesn't strike twice

[auhsor]

Wow thats quite a story Alynn.

I'm in an online relationship now. Well kind of. I used to live further down the coast, like 4 hours away and about 3 years ago I had to move. I already knew the girl cos her boyfriend was one of my good friends. She was also a good friend, tho I didnt really know her much. Well when I moved, I'd never thought about her really cos she had a boyfriend.

Well then a few people from my old town came up to visit us and she was one of them. Well her boyfriend had broken up with her and she wasn't really happy with things.  But we ended up talking quite a bit and really got on well with eachother, and then we exchanged MSN adresses. Well the time came around for her formal, and she didnt have anyone to go with, so I offered. Well We talked quite a bit and in the end we ended up 'going out', tho I still hadn't seen her for like over a year. I ended up staying a month with her after the formal. And things were good. Until I had to go home.

So now I don't see her for like months, and thats not good cos I feel we need to be together for the relationship to survive. Also, our 1st aniversary is coming up which is cool. So basically I don't really get to see her until holidays. I only get to talk to her on the net and on the phone.

So thats me and my Sort of Online Relationship. More of a long distance relationship I think.

[Pelican]

Well here's my rather brief and not terribly scary story:

A couple of years ago, I was checking out a lot of chatrooms - not looking for partner, just some people to talk to. Anyway, I talked to a few people, mostly guys (in retrospect, 'JoBabe' probably wasn' t the best nickname to choose!). I got on quite well with one guy, and started chatting to him on msn. Just friends, but later on, some mild flirting. Then suddenly he's declaring his undying love. I tried to be tactful, but before I know it, he's threatening to kill himself if he can't be with me. His friend also sent some rather threatening messages on his behalf.

I guess its a good thing I'm a naturally cautious person. I don't want to think what might have happened if I'd given him my street address. A simple case of miscontruing the situation, and he turns out to be 'unstable' (to put it politely).

On a lighter note though, one of my friends met a guy on a message board they both contributed to, and they're a couple now. So, it does work out for some. Personally I prefer to meet people in real life.

[Andail]

It's interesting when somebody's interest in another person gets sort of amplified by the fact they they're likely never to meet.
And as the chances get slimmer and slimmer, the desperation increases.
Isn't love a delicate balance between affection and desperation?

For instance, I totally had a crush on Mills. Then I met him in real life, and the excitement sort of died.

[Trapezoid]

I had an online girlfriend, Chloe, for about six months earlier this year. She lives in California, and she contacted me on AIM after seeing my animations. We had some fun online conversations for a while, and eventually she asked me to call her and a friend...
It continued on, we started calling eachother more often, and after knowing her for just a couple of weeks, we were in love with eachother and decided to be "going out". I'd never had anyone I could call a girlfriend before this.
We managed to talk on the phone every single night for the majority of our relationship. In April I flew to California to meet her for a few days, and it was utterly glorious. Much making out ensued.
Leaving was extremely sad. Being without her for the next few weeks, it made me pretty miserable. Long distance relationships, as far as I can tell, require something to look forward to. After a while she planned a trip to Massachusetts, and I had a reason to be happy again.
It didn't quite work out, though. I'm not sure if it had everything to do with the long distance... but it does require a lot of patience, and she was probably too young to always be able to draw up the maturity it takes.
She had a movie shoot for a while, which put her in a different environment, new friends, and no time to talk to me. She ended up falling out of love with me as easily as it came in the first place. She still came to visit, but it was heartbreaking for both of us.
Having deep feelings for someone who lives far away is very difficult if you think about it all the time. And that's hard to avoid, but I suppose it can work as long as you're able to appreciate what contact you do have, even if it's only over the phone or internet.