Bitching singles

Kinoko · Tue 15/02/2005 00:49:52

I'm aware a lot of you may find this topic rather uncaring, but does anyone get sick of listening to their single friends bitch about Valentine's Day? I myself find it a very commercial holiday, and I can go the whole argument of "You should love each other EVERY day, not just this one day" and all of that. I agree. I do. It's just that every single year it rolls around, I could bet a million dollars with 100% security (if I had that much money) on each and every one of the same single friends making the exact same comments about Valentine's Day.

"Well, it's Valentine's Day and I'm alone, AGAIN"
"What a stupid holiday, why do people fall for this crap? It's just created by Hallmark and chocolate companies to ..."
"*SIGH* I decided not to bitch this year but..."

...those are just a couple of examples. I mean, I understand, and I agree, but it's just gone way above "cliche" at this point. They're all great people, they don't seem to care about being single 99% of the time, but when Valentine's Day rolls around, they just have to say it. They have to say -something- and I can almost watch my clock waiting for it.

Like I said, I know it sounds uncaring, but it feels to me like it's been done to death and as if they're just saying it out of habit, or to get the obligatory "Don't worry, you're a great person, you'll find someone". What annoys me even more is when they make a point of saying how much Valentine's Day -doesn't- bother them, but then they talk for half an hour about how much it doesn't bother them. I'd like to be able to occasionally mention that I had a nice dinner out with my boyfriend, but I dare not speak a word for sounding like I'm "rubbing it in", causing them to go on about their one-day-a-year woes.

Phew, just had to get that off my chest really.

Incidentally, I had a lovely Valentine's yesterday ^_^ (man, that felt good to say!)

Peter Thomas · Tue 15/02/2005 00:57:16

Heh. Yeah, I'm one of those bitchers this year. Not normally - but, as you've probably read I've had a rocky ride recently, and EVERYTHING about Valentines reminded me of different aspects of that rocky road.

But yes, those people who do it EVERY year without fail annoy me. Worse still, some of my COUPLED friends whinge about it. "Oh, valentines is SUCH a drag! It just means we have to spend money on *insert name* when s/he knows I love him/her already!" Um... okay. I don't get that point of view. I mean, yes, they love them regardless of valentines, but if you don't like it, don't celebrate it. Don't go and bitch to us singletons about how much it drags to be in a loving relationship with someone where you have the opportunity to express it....

Incidentally, my Valentines wasn't actually that bad. A lot of good things happened to me, I just wanted it to be over for symbolisms sake

Kinoko · Tue 15/02/2005 01:04:27

Yes, Peter, I think you have a pretty valid reason for bitching ^_^ That doesn't bother me. Like you said, just those people that do it -all- the time for the sake of it. I agree that couples can be as bad.

I'm glad yours wasn't so bad.

Pizzaman · Tue 15/02/2005 01:06:55

I love being single!!! I remember my last girlfriend, towards the end, it wasn't fun at all! I realized when I am single, I got more time to do my own things.

-Pizzaman

Snarky · Tue 15/02/2005 01:10:29

I don't think I've ever heard a single person bitch about Valentine's Day. In my experience, the most annoying thing about the day for us singles is our coupled friends going on about how sorry they feel for us. It's not a big deal, OK?

I actually enjoy the day a lot, even without a valentine. Seeing couples being so sweet to each other is just... nice. Makes me feel all sentimental.

Today, a friend of mine is going to propose to her girlfriend. Something is deeply right with the universe. Ã,Â

Sylpher · Tue 15/02/2005 01:38:10

I just like how being single on Valentines day is treated like being Jewish on Christmas.

"Oh, your Jewish? Well.. This is Santa Claus... He has a VAGINA.... Can you say that?"

Wait.. I think I got my analogy.. Hm. Oh well. Santa Claus Vagina for the masses. Yay!

Evil · Tue 15/02/2005 01:46:09

I hate having a girlfriend on Valentines Day. Even more money to spend on her. But there IS a plue side to being single. The memebers of the opposite sex feel just as lonely as you and are looking to hook up aswell.

MillsJROSS · Tue 15/02/2005 03:17:39

I love Valentine's day! I'm single, but whenever there's an excuse to eat chocolate I'm all for it. The trick is to wait the day after Valentines day, to buy everything. Because, let's face it, Valentines day is an expensive day.

But even without a girlfriend, I still got free candy from my big sis (fraternity sister), and repaid her with more candy.

I've had to portion off my box of chocolates so I don't eat it all in a day, which is what I really want to do...mainly because I want to try all the different flavors. Damn sampler box!

-MillsJROSS

MrColossal · Tue 15/02/2005 03:48:11

Oh no! Mills is single! Did the long distance relationship with CJ not work out?

You looked so happy!

Squinky · Tue 15/02/2005 03:49:46

Valentines day means its time for my yearly mating ritual.....Afterwards I will shrivel up like an empty toothpaste tube and hibernate until its humping time again.....

shbaz · Tue 15/02/2005 03:54:00

Quote from: MillsJROSS on Tue 15/02/2005 03:17:39
I love Valentine's day! I'm single, but whenever there's an excuse to eat chocolate I'm all for it. The trick is to wait the day after Valentines day, to buy everything. Because, let's face it, Valentines day is an expensive day.

Aha, me too. I also love Halloween and Easter for this reason. Tonight I'm baking cookies for friends and when I went to the grocery store there were still people looking at cards and buying flowers at 8pm. Such procrastinators. If they're that bad in the doghouse, they should just wait until tomorrow and they can get three times the roses at half the price.

Also, Valentine's day is the best day to pick up chicks ever. You can tell the single and lonely ones by the blank expressionless faces, and they are much more likely to accept a date than otherwise. After this, I think I'm screwed, but for a week I am a lady's man.

Darth Mandarb · Tue 15/02/2005 04:26:02

Quote from: Squinky on Tue 15/02/2005 03:49:46Valentines day means its time for my yearly mating ritual.....Afterwards I will shrivel up like an empty toothpaste tube and hibernate until its humping time again.....

Good shit man ... I was laughing out loud after reading that!

I used to hate Valentine's Day. I never bitched out it ... just dreaded it internally. I knew it was just another day when I wouldn't have somebody to brush my teeth with before bed *sigh*

Well I gotta go ... Sara is waiting to brush her teeth with me.

SSH · Tue 15/02/2005 07:57:31

Talking about overprice Valentines presents.... my wife named a star after me. I mean, how could she waste so much money on a thing that isnt even acknowledged by proper astronomers, etc. On the other hand, she did buy the closest available star to the one I got her at our last wedding anniversary

Haddas · Tue 15/02/2005 08:26:03

I went to the movies yesterdaywith my girlfriend. I asked her, "why are there so many people watching this movie tonight? It's monday!" She answered because it was the 14th. I wittily said "that's right, the retired people get their money today". It was true too, but somehow I can't help feeling people looked at me with murderous fury...

Andail · Tue 15/02/2005 15:33:59

I didn't pay attention to whatever day yesterday was at all. I hardly acknowledge my family's birthdays, nor my own. I'm so frikkin liberated and bohemic

DGMacphee · Tue 15/02/2005 15:37:23

I wasn't single on Valentine's Day...

We had an awesome time together!

DragonRose · Tue 15/02/2005 15:46:11

I'm single, and have been for several years (no exageration). I spent a lot of yesterday dealing with people saying "Find anyone this year? No? Oh," and quickly changing the subject.

That wouldn't be so bad, but I had that conversation about NINE TIMES yesterday. Most of the time people don't care about my non-existant lovelife, but on Valentines everyone tends to want to silmutaneously talk about it and avoid it. And it gets old.

Darth Mandarb · Tue 15/02/2005 16:21:32

Quote from: DragonRose on Tue 15/02/2005 15:46:11I'm single, and have been for several years (no exageration). I spent a lot of yesterday dealing with people saying "Find anyone this year? No? Oh," and quickly changing the subject.

I was single for about 5 years before Sara and I got together. I had about 2 million female friends who always said, "but you're the perfect guy ... any girl would be lucky to have you!"

You can only hear that shit so many times before you simply stop listening.

I don't usually care about Valentine's day at all. I had nothing planned for it what-so-ever ... but yesterday when I got to my desk Sara had left a little card for me. So I suprised her when she got home by cooking her dinner and left her a card with a rose ... nothing fancy, but just returned the favor.

Pumaman · Tue 15/02/2005 18:13:03

This year I've heard far more couples bitching about having to spend money on each other, than I've heard singles moaning about being single.

It may be a day that's pretty much all commercial, but I find it sad how many people would rather moan about it than embrace it.

Anyway, I got a valentine's card for a mate of mine just for a laugh. Upon opening it, he looked at me funny and we haven't spoken since.

TerranRich · Tue 15/02/2005 21:37:17

Quote from: DragonRose on Tue 15/02/2005 15:46:11
I'm single, and have been for several years (no exageration).

Same here. And you know what I say? Good! Less money *I* have to spend on some materialistic girl who doesn't know the real meaning of "love". I had a blast yesterday. I lounged around all day, did some math homework (which I, strangely enough, like doing), then went to my math class. All in all, it was a very lovely day. Valentine's Day reminds me of how much I like being single sometimes.