She wants to be my instant girlfriend.

Chicky · Sat 14/10/2006 12:13:20

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Raggit · Sat 14/10/2006 16:02:18

Woops Chicky, really didn't read enough my original post.

This has nothing to do with on-line dating. This girl is in the same classroom with me everyday at school.

Shane 'ProgZmax' Stevens · Sat 14/10/2006 18:55:22

Quotewhich either made her oblivious to his psycho-nature or made her see his negative qualities as a challenge to overcome

QuoteIt's obvious why she's with her current abusive boyfriend.

It's amusing just how many of you immediately accept she has an abusive boyfriend with absolutely no proof. Wake up call: Women lie when they want to. With her already questionable behavior, how can anything she says be believed without evidence? The answer is, it can't.

My advice stands: Get some proof to back up her claims if you are that interested in a future with her. If not, tell her to leave you alone and move on. The last thing you need is to get mixed up with someone who fabricates events for sympathy, trust me. End of line.

Raggit · Sat 14/10/2006 19:00:50

Quote from: ProgZmax on Sat 14/10/2006 18:55:22
Quotewhich either made her oblivious to his psycho-nature or made her see his negative qualities as a challenge to overcome

QuoteIt's obvious why she's with her current abusive boyfriend.

It's amusing just how many of you immediately accept she has an abusive boyfriend with absolutely no proof.Ã,Â Wake up call:Ã,Â Women lie when they want to.Ã,Â With her already questionable behavior, how can anything she says be believed without evidence?Ã,Â The answer is, it can't.Ã,Â

My advice stands:Ã,Â Get some proof to back up her claims if you are that interested in a future with her.Ã,Â If not, tell her to leave you alone and move on.Ã,Â The last thing you need is to get mixed up with someone who fabricates events for sympathy, trust me.Ã,Â End of line.

ProgZmax, I might be a little more skepticle of her claims too, except that the first evening she was over at my house, her boyfriend called demanding to know if she was here or not. That pretty much answered my question. I also met this guy, but only once. He wasn't overly friendly. But I didn't talk to him enough to make a judgement.

(Probably should've mentioned this stuff if my original post.)

Shane 'ProgZmax' Stevens · Sat 14/10/2006 19:03:49

QuoteProgZmax, I might be a little more skepticle of her claims too, except that the first evening she was over at my house, her boyfriend called demanding to know if she was here or not.

If she's developed such a close attachment to you in a short time who's to say she hasn't done this before? If you were her husband wouldn't you be leery at all of her visiting strange men you didn't know at their house?

Raggit · Sat 14/10/2006 19:32:59

ProgZmax,

Exactly. That's why I'm not wanting to get involved any further.

Chicky · Sat 14/10/2006 19:36:08

Quote from: Raggit on Sat 14/10/2006 16:02:18
Woops Chicky, really didn't read enough my original post.

This has nothing to do with on-line dating. This girl is in the same classroom with me everyday at school.

Haha, i really need to get more sleep.

I just saw the 'instant girlfriend' title and thought instant messenger, what with us all being geeks and that.

do carry on

Shane 'ProgZmax' Stevens · Sat 14/10/2006 19:36:47

Go with your gut, Raggit. We tend to ignore the initial warnings and pay for it later.

Nikolas · Sat 14/10/2006 20:11:47

I say that sometimes subtle messages do nto carry across the meaning.

I also believe that being friends with someone who has the hots for you is really really difficult (and the other way of course).

just stay completely clear! Cut all contact! Every contact! Other wise she may never get the message!

SSH · Sun 15/10/2006 09:06:23

Tell her you posted about her as a problem on an intenet forum, that's bound to scare her off. In fact, print out the thread for her so she can see for herself...

Tuomas · Sun 15/10/2006 10:27:23

yeah, like "hey, you're not the only freak here! I think we might have a future together."

Helm · Mon 16/10/2006 12:32:33

The really scary thing is this 'you are my destiny' aspect. The kids I could take or leave, the abusive or not boyfriend would definately have to go, but the psycho God sent you romance I would never be able to deal with. I think that was the best clue you had to get the hell outta dodge. And you're not out of there yet, play it cool.

Meowster · Mon 16/10/2006 12:51:11

I couldn't agree more.

Although I would also be skeptical about the fact she has 2 children at the age of 20...

I mean, two children suggests that she actually put some thought into having children. It wasn't just one small accident. She started a family. And she started a family with a guy who is apparently abusive. How young must she have been when she first concieved? And now she's obsessing over you.

I kind of get the picture that she's slightly unhinged.

Layabout · Mon 16/10/2006 14:35:48

You could say the only way you would have a relationship with her is if it is an open relationship, as you are a person who believes that we are all animals and our animal instinct shouldn't be repressed by the prudes who think that manogomy is right.

Most women will be turned off and probably deeply insulted by that. Although from the sound of it, this girl might not. You could have this girl in your bed with the click of your fingers. Just sleep with her and then totally avoid her. If she keeps harassing you take out a restraining order on her.

SSH · Mon 16/10/2006 15:01:35

You old romantic, Layabout...

TheYak · Mon 16/10/2006 15:21:28

The advice certainly seems less open-minded and more on the misogynistic side of things. Been burnt much?

DGMacphee · Mon 16/10/2006 15:36:09

Tell her you lost your penis in a camel riding expedition and therefore feel no attraction for anyone anymore.

I also like the phrase "instant girlfriend". Sounds like something you put in the microwave for 30 seconds. DING! INSTANT GIRLFRIEND!

Raggit · Mon 16/10/2006 15:45:02

Quote from: Layabout on Mon 16/10/2006 14:35:48
You could have this girl in your bed with the click of your fingers. Just sleep with her and then totally avoid her. If she keeps harassing you take out a restraining order on her.

Yeah, that'd work real good!Ã,Â Ã,Â

If she wanted to cuddle afterwards I'd have to tell her I couldn't because I gotta go throw the condom away and get a restraining order.Ã,Â

Meowster · Mon 16/10/2006 15:51:48

Man, I was thinking of things you could say that weren't that, and I suddenly remembered that old nursery rhyme from my childhood...

Ladybird, Ladybird, run away home!
Your house is on fire,
And your children all gone!

Man that's grim.

Anyway you could say something like that to her.

Raggit · Mon 16/10/2006 15:59:30

Well,

Today's the day. I haven't got a clue if I'll see her or not. If I talk to her at all, it's gonna be real casual.

If she wants to talk about "us" again, I'll just tell her what I already told her: It's not realistic. She's too far ahead of me in her life, and she needs somebody who is more where she is at.

Wish me luck! I'll update y'all afterwards.